Coaching Call #091 – Leaving an Abusive RelationshipBuy
This caller is a woman in India, stuck in an abusive family and in a relationship with an abusive man. She’s dealing with cultural issues and the pressure to get married to a man she doesn’t know or love. Abuse is a huge subject, and there was no way we could completely sort it out in one call. But we were able to make a great deal of headway in terms of finding the strength to take immediate action to protect herself, as well as beginning the process of shifting the underlying beliefs that are the true cause of her situation.
This will be a powerful call for anyone who has the tendency to let others cross their boundaries, whether it has escalated to full on abuse or not. It will also give you powerful insights into how abusive relationships happen, should you have a loved one who is currently in such a situation.
I’m overjoyed to report that this caller has already contacted me with good news: “When you told me to leave the douchebag with such confidence, somehow I finally gave myself permission to let go.”
Topics covered on this call
- She wants to know how one can know the right time to leave a relationship
- This one’s black and white: if there is abuse, it’s time to leave (I know, easier said than done)
- The energetic reason that people get into and become trapped in abusive relationships
- Is emotional abuse “better” than physical abuse? What degree of emotional abuse can be tolerated?
- What most women/people who are abused have in common
- The anatomy of an abuser
- Aiming higher – opening herself up to the vision of what a healthy relationship actually looks like (creating a different “normal”)
- Another man has proposed to her and her family is pressuring her to accept (the caller is from India, where arranged marriages are common)
- Why you should never go out with someone you’re not truly attracted to (sounds like a no-brainer, but honestly, it happens A LOT, particularly to women)
- My #1 piece of advice to abusive women, on how to recalibrate their vibration and start attracting healthier men
- Bringing the concept of loving yourself out of the cliché theory into something practical that actually helps you feel better and stronger
- The #1 rule you have to follow with men who have abused you. No exceptions
- Why you can’t wait for others to stand up for you in order to give yourself permission to stand up for yourself
- What about if your family are being abusive?
- The exercise that helps to change your view of men from abusive to kind (which allows you to attract a very different kind of man)
- Her family expect her to listen to them as long as she’s living with them. Will they force her to marry a man she doesn’t love? Does she have any options?
- Techniques for how to handle her abusive family members