As we level up and move towards what we want, our resistance tends to come up to be released. Some of this resistance comes in the form of fears. We face them, drag them out of the dark, shine a big-ass light on them and, when we realize (as we always do) that there was really nothing to be afraid of, we let them go.
But what about when the fear is so great that it becomes completely debilitating? What about the grand-daddy of all types of fears – the phobia? How do these develop and can we release them using this kind of energy work? Today’s video is dedicated to answering these questions (hint: yep, we can totally let phobias go). Bam! You’re welcome.
Coaching Call #188 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: How Can She Improve Her Finances and Get the Dream Career She Wants?
This caller wants to be a singer but is too scared to go for her dream because of the financial obligations she currently has. She wants this career more than anything, but when she thinks about it, it just seems so far out of her reach and nothing more than a pipedream. If she had all the money she needs right now, then she could safely go after her dreams.
What limiting beliefs does she have that are holding her back? Does she really need money before she can line up her energy with the reality she wants, and how will the Universe support her on her chosen path?
This call is for you if you have a strong desire for something, and you won’t go after your dream because you believe your current reality is holding you back.
Awesome Megan’s Burning Question:
“Hi Melody, my question is about phobias. I have a rather embarrassing phobia of frogs. They freak me out!! Of course rationally I know they can’t hurt me, but my reaction to them is instant fright (like someone jumping out at you). I know I attract them as a manifestation of my fear, but how do I stop fearing the thing I fear, to stop manifesting them in my house? I have improved over the years – they are a lot smaller now (about the 1/2 the size of a matchbox car), and I can be in the same room as one, as long as it’s not too close and I can keep an eye on it (in case he goes for the throat, you never know!). I know you’ve done blogs on animal communication, would that help?”
Here’s my answer:
Ok, Awesome Megan; thanks for the laugh! First of all, animal communication, in this case, might help, but not in the way that you think. It might help you to connect with the frog where you find out he’s not there to murder you in your sleep, or rip your throat out, and he’s not a weird Werewolf or Vampire frog! I think you’ve been watching a little bit too much CW (the television network that is responsible for bringing you loads of vampire and werewolf related shows…)!
How do phobias develop?
The frog is actually a very helpful being who has come in to help you realise a fear. He is not there to hurt you, but he is going to mirror back the fear that you are holding onto; the fear that’s inside you. It’s a really good sign that you are already less afraid of them, but you know what? It’s not about the frog!
When somebody thinks they have a phobia about something, they tend to think it’s as simple as looking for a bad experience that they had with this thing. For example, if somebody has a fear of snakes and they’ve had a bad experience with one, they think that this is what caused their phobia. But that is not how that happens.
A phobia develops when there is a great deal of fear, and that particular phobia represents that fear and triggers it in you. It doesn’t matter if it’s a fear of heights, frogs, ducks or a fear that somebody is constantly staring at you.
How can you release your fear?
What you want to look at when you are looking at a phobia is not so much at why you are afraid of frogs, but why are you afraid, period? You’ve already hinted at that in your question, “It feels like somebody is jumping out at me.” This is the feeling that you want to step into and if you need to think of a frog in order to trigger that feeling to begin with, fine. You don’t have to stay on the whole frog thing and plus it might also make you too afraid if you do that. Step into this feeling, with a trained practitioner or coach if possible, who can hold the energy for you as you do that. That will ease things for you and make it easier for you to do it, but you can also do this by yourself.
Here is the technique that I outline in my book: You want to really activate the vibration of the fear, which means you actually allow yourself to feel it. The fear will then start to manifest in a manageable way. You will start to get thoughts, memories and ideas that match that fear. They may not make any logical sense, and they probably most definitely will not have anything to do with frogs, but it will feel exactly the same. You then want to take a look at the manifestation of your thoughts, memories and ideas – go into the memory and start to change them, until you feel better.
For example, it may have been something really as innocuous as you were alone at home with your older brother when you were little, you were already scared because it was dark outside, there was a thunderstorm, and your brother put on a monster mask, and jumped out at you. The feeling that came up in you was that you were not safe in your own home. In that case, you might want to go back and beat the crap out of your brother (in your mind), as he jumps out at you, so that you can get that feeling of strength. In your mind, turn on all the lights on and bitch him out!
Do anything that you need to do to get that little girl to feel safe again. Then you will be able to achieve the feeling of safety as well.
This is not necessarily exactly what your memory is going to be, this is just me spit-balling; it’s just an example. Sit with the feeling, let the memory come up, and then change the memory. There’s more detail on this in my book, as the book is a technical manual of how reality works, and it outlines this perfectly.
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Until next time: bye!