Why Do Others React Badly To Your Light?

In last week’s video, I explained that you are, in all likelihood, a leader of the light, or what I like to call a “Gladiator”. We discussed what I really mean by “leader” – that it’s not necessarily someone who shouts at people from a stage, or has a managerial position. What I’m talking about is being an energy leader – someone who offers a high, bright, stable vibration, and shines their light so everyone can see better. In that video, I also mentioned that often, when you begin to shine your light, it actually doesn’t go so well. In fact, other people can react really badly. Many of us experienced that regularly in our childhoods. Well, today, I’d like to talk to you about why that is, the mechanics of how that happens, and most importantly, what you can do about it.

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Hey my lovelies, it’s Melody Fletcher here. Now, in last week’s video, I explained that you are, in all likelihood, a leader of the light, or what I like to call a “Gladiator”. We discussed what I really mean by “leader” – that it’s not necessarily someone who shouts at people from a stage, or has a managerial position. What I’m talking about is being an energy leader – someone who offers a high, bright, stable vibration, and shines their light so everyone can see better. In that video, I also mentioned that often, when you begin to shine your light, it actually doesn’t go so well. Many of us experienced that regularly in our childhoods. Well, today, I’d like to talk to you about why that is, the mechanics of how that happens, and most importantly, what you can do about it.

But, before I do that, I wanted to make an exciting announcement: I’m hosting a Gladiator Masterclass this weekend, which will go much deeper into the subject of what it means to be a Gladiator, or leader of the light, what’s “expected” of you, and what you can do to make your life a hell of a lot easier. It’s going to be three live classes, including a nice, big Q and A session, where you can ask me anything you like, and… it’s going to be absolutely free. All you have to do is sign up using the link in the description. And yes, replays will be provided if you can’t make the class times. If you’re watching this in the future, you might still want to click on the link. Who knows, there might be something nice for you there as well… Why not check it out? Go sign up and come back to this video, or watch the rest of this video and then go sign up. Basically, what I’m saying is… go and sign up. CLICK HERE TO CHECK IT OUT.  

Alright, now let’s take a look at why other people so often don’t react all that well to our light, shall we?

Tell me if this sounds familiar. There you are, interacting with others. Maybe you try to share something with them that’s currently exciting you. Perhaps you’re trying to help them. You’re listening to them, comforting them, offering some heart felt, empowering advice. Maybe all you did was say “You can do it! I believe in you!”. Or maybe, you didn’t do anything at all, but you’re in the room.

And suddenly, they turn on you. Even if they were friendly before, they abruptly change the subject or even end the conversation. They might attack you, accuse you of not understanding them or the issue, of not really listening to them. The same person who actually asked for your help, can suddenly reject your very presence. It’s like they’re suddenly mad at you! And all you were doing is trying to help!

I know this pain well. I used to experience this all the time in my childhood. You walk up to someone with an open heart, trying to give them a gift, only to have them smack it to the ground, and then tell you off for having the audacity of trying. It can feel like you, who you are, your very being, is offensive to them. And in some cases, this rejection can even turn physically violent.

What the hell is happening there??

Here’s the thing: you are a leader of the light. You always have been. Which means that you came into this world with a lot of light inside you, and it’s always been trying to come out. When you’re in joy, when you’re being truly yourself, when you’re in a place of joyful service (which isn’t the same as sacrificing yourself for the good of others, by the way), you shine brighter. And when you shine your light, you illuminate everything and everyone around you.

So, now imagine that you come into a dark room with your lantern and you light up the whole space. The other people in that room, who have been sitting in that darkness, now get to see what’s around them. They get to see what they’ve been sitting in. And, well, they may very well not like it. They get to see their fears, their limitations, what’s going on in their lives that isn’t working for them but which they’ve been putting up with. In short, they get to see their shit. And this can be really jarring, especially if you haven’t been trained to understand that 1.) seeing your shit is good because now you can do something about it, 2.) your shit is your responsibility, but you’re your fault, and 3.) you have the power to actually clean up your shit. Now, someone who hasn’t woken up, who doesn’t have much awareness and even less empowerment, is going to see their now illuminated and visible shit and they’ll have 2 options:

They can either see the value of making that which is hidden visible, because it finally allows for positive change. In other words, they see the shit, become aware of it and make a change. Or, and this is what usually happens, they can shout at you to turn off your damn light. Because if you don’t see the shit, it doesn’t exist, right? And that, ladies and gentlemen, is what we call “denial”.

Now, people aren’t in denial because they’re stupid. They’re in denial because they’re afraid. You see, most of us haven’t been trained to understand how powerful we are, that we can do something about what’s not working. In fact, we’ve been trained into the opposite perspective. Most people, upon seeing their own personal shit, immediately assume that they must now take the blame. After all, it’s their shit, so it must be their fault that it’s there. And blaming yourself, will shut you down. Especially, if you couple that with powerlessness – the belief that you can’t do anything about it. If seeing your shit just makes you feel bad about yourself, causes you to beat up on yourself even harder, and makes you feel hopeless about things ever getting better, then it’s understandable how you might want to turn the morphine drip back on, turn off the light and just sit in willful ignorance in the dark, right?

So, people often choose to sit in the dark, because it feels less painful than looking at their own shit. And then we come along with our bright lights, and we illuminate it all. Now, they’re forced to look at that which they don’t want to see. And, instead of saying “well, I guess I’d better clean this shit up”, they turn on you. They might even blame you for how they feel about the shit – because without you, they wouldn’t have seen it or had to feel their reaction to it. Best case scenario, they’ll get away from you. Worst case scenario, they try to shut down your light. They’ll attack you and make you feel bad, because the worse you feel, the dimmer your light is. And that explains why some people in your reality seem to like you best when you’re at your worst.

Of course, others in the dark begin to get addicted to your light. They come to depend on it. They feel better when you’re around. Those people will love you when you’re at your best, but will instantly go for the jugular when you dip a little and aren’t doing 100% great. They’re not taking responsibility for their own shit, but they do like it when they can see better. So, they’ve put YOU in charge of their light, and as soon as your light dims a little, they shout bloody murder. If you have anyone like this in your life, you probably tend to get quite resentful that you’re never allowed to have a bad day around them. They always need you to be the strong one.

And then, of course, there are going to be people who do both – there’s a Goldilocks zone where they feel good, and as long as your light falls into that zone, they’ll like you. But as soon as you go too bright or too dim for them, as is bound to happen as you, you know, live your own damn life, they’ll cry fowl. These people will also often try to manipulate you into staying in that Goldilocks zone, so you often feel like, no matter what you do, you can’t get it right.

So, what’s a Gladiator to do? You’ve come to shine your light, but if all of these people react so badly to it, wouldn’t it be better for you to shut it down and hide it? I’m guessing you tried that! Most of us did. And it doesn’t work out. Because it’s like trying to shut down the sun. It’s just not going to work. You can shut the sunlight out, by putting up curtains, or going into the basement. But you can’t shut it down. And, quite frankly, you wouldn’t want to. Our entire solar system would die including every living thing on earth.

The very short and condensed answer is this: you have to be like the sun. Think about it: the sun doesn’t care how you feel about its light. It doesn’t care if you put on SPF 5000, or if you hide in the basement. The sun just shines. And thank God it does! You have to shine your light. Let others take responsibility for whether or not they can handle it. They can get away from you. They can put on sun screen or use black out curtains. In other words, they need to manage how much light their receiving, instead of trying to manage how much light you’re projecting. It’s the equivalent of putting on sunglasses versus trying to blow up the sun because you don’t like the glare.

It’s time for you to stop apologizing for your light and start shining as bright as you can. If other people’s shit is illuminated by your light, let them get away from you if they don’t like it. Don’t ever let them shame or guilt you into dimming your light.

How do you shine brighter? Well, that’s a huge subject, and it’s actually the whole crux of what I teach, of what I’ve come to help you remember. You can check out my blog at MelodyFletcher.com, where you’ll find hundreds of resources to help you. You can buy my book “Deliberate Receiving, Finally the Universe makes some freaking sense”, published by Hay House and available on Amazon. And, or, you can just come to my Free Gladiator Master Class this weekend! Again, the registration link is in the description.

In any case, I hope this video has answered some more of your questions, given you some clarity and most importantly, helped you to feel better. Until next week, huge, smooshy hugs, and thank you for bringing your light to the world.

 

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  • Avatar Sandie Maki says:

    OMG and OMG I just cannot find the words. I have spent my life trying to figure out how I could get others approval; that I am okay. This whole video explained it. The thing is it has been not just kids, teachers and as I got older other employees and managers even attacks on my severe allergic reaction that nearly stopped my breathing. Some people and kids as I grew up described me as really nice when I really didn’t do anything. Unknowingly, when I became aware of light, I asked and focused on really lighting up and projecting only love and letting others be who they are. Did it help, well not the reactions but now I know why and I will continue to send light

  • Avatar Asema Samatova says:

    Melody, thank you so very much!
    Sometimes I cry around this subject because the reactions of people (closest people) to how I am just confuse the shit out of me. They make me doubt myself, leading me to believe that I must change into something else. And often, I don’t even know what the heck that exactly is! It is so painful having to think that way. So I am on a constant search of “ how I should be “. Constantly battling with my own self. So painful and it just knocks me off of my feet. I feel like I come off of my path and am just nowhere and have been for many years.
    This video is like a light in the tunnel. It gives me faith that there’s another direction. And I just need to find strength and wisdom to follow it, working through my despair.
    Thank you so much. I hope you can see how much value it brings to our lives.

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