If you’re an artist, writer, musician, teacher, or creator of some kind, if you have a message you want to get out there in some way, how do you orchestrate that energetically? How do you get people to read, watch or engage with your work? How do you get them to accept it, publish it, or give you the damn recording contract already? Why was even J.K. Rowling’s book rejected so often before it finally got published? And if SHE was rejected, what chance do you have of having the success you want?
You’re waking up, and as you do, you may realize that you want to spread your gifts far and wide. This will certainly bring up self-doubt. How can you overcome this kind of doubt so you can get your message out there? Watch today’s awesome Q and A video to find out!
Coaching Call #373 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: Why Can’t She Attract A High-Quality Guy?
This caller, who’s now in her 40’s, still hasn’t manifested the romantic relationship that she wants. She’s dated over the years, but the connection she’s looking for hasn’t shown up in her reality, which is beginning to concern her, because she has a belief that she’s running out of time due to her age. The guys she has been meeting, tick some of her boxes, but they don’t possess some important qualities that are more of a match to her own personality.
Now that she is in her 40’s, is she really running out of time to manifest the guy she wants? Why are men showing up in her reality that are not a full match to what she wants? What qualities is she really looking for in a guy? And, what limiting beliefs are behind the fact that a high quality guy isn’t showing up for her?
Hey, my happy shiny puppies, this is Melody Fletcher, your go-to for everything Law of Attraction and Reality Creation. And today, I’ve got a treat for you! What follows is an excerpt from one of our live Q&A calls, where people just like you, students just like you, were able to ask me questions, and I answered them. And today, you’re going to get one of those. And, as you’ll see in the coming weeks, we’re going to be rolling out more and more of these.
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Melody – There she is!!
Caller – Is it too dark? Melody, while I was waiting, I made you this.
Melody – What!! Oh my God, that’s so cool.
Caller – Thanks!
Melody – Thank you!
Caller – You’re welcome. I like drawing while I listen to stuff. So! Ok, anyway; what was my question?! My question is: Once you committed to having a higher vibrational state, how does that change how you interact with people? And also, sort of, along with that – like, it doesn’t make sense to me why people who, like JK Rowling for example, when she wrote Harry Potter and exactly what she wanted to write. And, she’s like, I believe in this, and whatever; but then, she was rejected by like 20 different people, and then, it was like…
Melody – Who never even read the book!
Caller – Oh, yeah. I think that’s part of it though, is like, people, like, you’re not, if you’re not what people are expecting, they’re not going to open up for you at all, and then, like, only one person believes in you, and then, everyone believes in you, and then it’s like….. You know?
Melody – No, no, no!! The only person who really had to believe in JK Rowling was JK Rowling. So, she had to go through a process of being rejected until she basically – I’m certain at some point, the woman had a tantrum of some kind and had to reaffirm, had a moment where she had to really decide that she wanted this. Where she had to really decide that she was going to go for this and let this come out. And, she could not have manifested people reading her book and loving it, but then, somehow not signing her. You know? Like, a lot of those people weren’t never even inspired to read the book. And, do you know the story of how she got her book published?
Caller – She was, like, at a pay phoen?
Melody – No, because it was, I think, her agent gave it to the publisher, and the publisher, the guy there – it was either the agent that owed somebody a favor or the publisher owed somebody a favor, but owed the other person a favor. And so, he still wasn’t going to read the damn book, but he gave it to his 8-year-old daughter, and his 8-year-old daughter read the book. There’s a piece of paper in a museum – Harry Potter museum – where she basically wrote the first review for the book, and off of that it got published, because it was manifested into a child’s hands. Because, I also asked, I was like, how is that possible that people didn’t publish Harry Potter. It’s because they didn’t read it. They didn’t read it. But they weren’t inspired to.
This was her manifestation, and also, you have to understand, we had to be ready for Harry Potter. This was a massive co-creation. So, the timing had to be perfect to bring this out. Everything had to come together. But, I promise you, that there was some resistance in her that caused her to maybe go – but nothing went wrong. Nothing went wrong; she just had to get to the point where, maybe, she got, I don’t know specifically, but where she got to the point where she was so sick of being rejected, and it was her own doubt that had to be overcome, and where she just made the decision, like: “No, fuck it; this is good. I’m going to do this.” Maybe, JK Rowling probably didn’t say, “Fuck it!” But I’m going to say it!! And – or, maybe she did!!
But, kind of had to – and we’ve all had moments like that in our life where things are just not working out, things not working out, and then, we get mad, and we just finally go, “No! I am having this; I’m not putting up with this anymore.” And then, things open up. Does that answer your question?
Caller – Well, I guess, like, I’m probably wondering, like, – like, I get from her perspective, sort of, like, it wasn’t working, and then, she manifested it working. But I still don’t get, like, from a Universe perspective how it’s, like, if somebody believes in themselves, and everyone’s rejecting them until, like, one person, is like, “Oh, this is good!”
Melody – No, no, no, you’re putting the cart before the horse. You’re turning it around. It’s not that nobody believes in you until one person believes in you, and then, finally, everything is ok. It’s got nothing to do with them. It’s that, when she made a shift, somebody who felt the same way, showed up.
Caller – Oh! Ok, so it doesn’t really have anything to do with, like, how many people or something.
Melody – The penny has dropped!! Yes!!
Caller – Ok! So, the first part of my question, like, once you decide to be on that higher vibrational state, like, how does that change how you interact with people? Like, I see a lot of, like, famous people who are, like, annoyed by it, and then, other people who, like, nobody’s seems to, like, bother them. So, like, once you decide, like, you know, be a beacon of light, like, what’s, sort of, like, a better way to, like, shine, but, like, let’s say, you do need help, or like, you do, like, what would you say the difference is between, like, going about it, like, a better way, versus, like, I don’t know – it’s not making sense!!
Melody – Well, I think, there is no better way – I think, there is your way, and that’s the challenge, you have to find what you want. How do you want to engage with people from whatever vibrational level you’re at? And, that is something that is always changing for me; something I’m always discovering in more and more detail. And so, because, here’s the thing: You’re not always going to be the nicest person, sometimes you’re going to need to set a boundary. You’re not always going to be interested in talking with people. Sometimes, you are, and sometimes you’re not. You’re not a one-dimensional being who always has the same mood. When you’re tired, you get off a plane, there’s a bunch of fans; you might not have it in you to engage with them in a fun way in that moment. And yet, another time, you might be like, that’s the funniest thing in the world for me to do; I can’t wait to do more and more of it.
And so, it’s – you know, you say, famous people, but not all famous people are high vibing.
Caller – Yeah!
Melody – Yeah? That’s – yeah!!
Caller – Yeah!
Melody – So, let’s not put them on a pedestal. Because it can also highlight a lot of problems, fame, and can be quite a terrible experience, really, fame can. It’s not a great experience for everyone.
How do you engage with people differently? I can tell you what I have discovered if that’s helpful. But that is my perspective for me. And so, my thing is that I consider myself a nice person. That’s within my integrity; I don’t like being a bitch. I’m willing to be a bitch, if I’ve got to be, if you push me hard enough, or it just comes out of me, I’m absolutely willing to let that happen. But, as a general rule, I don’t see myself as a balls-to-the-wall, kind of, demanding person. Because, it doesn’t feel good to me to be like that. It feels much better to me to have really pleasant interactions with people while setting my boundaries.
And so, when I’m interacting with people, I tend to put myself into a happy state, into a positively, expected state before I walk into a shop, before I go and talk to somebody, before I meet with somebody. Because my thing is, if it’s not going to be fun and awesome for me, then, why would I being doing this in the first place? So, I’m going to expect it to be fun and awesome. I’m going to expect a good outcome; I’m going to expect a benevolent outcome. And so, I actually am now at the point where I – and it changes how you treat people – it changes; when you have a positive expectation, it changes how you approach people. It changes how you are with them. And always, when you no longer force yourself to do things that you don’t really want to do, like, go to a party you don’t want to go to, or have a conservation you don’t want to go and have, it changes how you – because then you’re not resentful of people and going, “Aww, I don’t want to spend time with you people. Well, I don’t have to.” Oh, if I’m only doing it when I want to, it becomes a really, really positive experience.
So now, I have a different expectation; it starts to fuel itself, you see. And then, I approach people very, very differently. I tend to think about my future, in terms of, well, how will I deal with people as I become more enlightened, what if I become more enlightened, then, how will I be able to relate to people? And, I kind of think – I heard Kryon – K-r-y-o-n, who I listen to sometimes on YouTube, talking about: stop being weird lightworkers, be like the masters. And the masters, they didn’t rub people the wrong way, for the most part. They weren’t contrarian, they didn’t go and point out everybody’s faults; they were actually loved. They talked with people; they shared with people; they hugged people.
And I think about that, and I think that’s what really resonates with me, is becoming more and more open, rather than finding ways to become closed; and realizing that I don’t have to, that’s helped me a lot. It’s been a huge freedom to realize, I don’t have to protect myself, I just have to stabilize. And, the more stable my vibration is, the more I can go out into the world, into all areas, and I actually very much enjoy talking to people who I fundamentally disagree with. I mean really, like people who are prejudiced, or homophobic, or racist, or whatever. I like having conversations with those people, when the energy is right, because I want to know what it’s really about. I want to dig deeper. Not in the attempt to convert them, but just in the attempt to understand them more, because that’s fun for me. I like understanding things; I like understanding paradigms; I like understanding people. And, if it gives me the chance to read their energy because I’m willing to let a little data come up that’s really fun for me. And then, also, if I’m in the right energy, magic happens. Like magic happens. People’s eyes start to go, and they’re like, “Oh my God! I never thought about it that way.” And, they’re like, “Seriously, are you having a change of heart right now, right in front of me? Like, oh Shit!!” Right?
And, not because I brow-beat them into it, but just because I came at them, and they were obviously ready for it, otherwise, I wouldn’t be in their reality, and they wouldn’t be in mine. I came at them with a non-judgmental, open energy.
And so, that’s what I practice more and more, is, how can I talk to more people in a way where it’s going to be fun, not how do I talk with less people. Does that help you at all?
Caller – Yeah! That’s really good. Can I ask just a quick couple of questions?
Melody – A quick follow up question! Yeah?
Caller – Ok! So, does that also – I guess from that perspective it also would change, if you were asking somebody else for help, then, right, because then, it’s just about having a positive interaction?
Melody – Yeah!
Caller – Ok!
Melody – And, you know, it is always your reality, so if you’re asking somebody for help, you know, #1, they don’t have to say yes, if you’re asking instead of manipulating. Right? They don’t have to say yes; they can always say no. But, if they are going to come in to help you, and they’ve said yes, then, I would have a very positive expectation of that. And, I have to say, I am genuinely shocked nowadays when things don’t just instantly work out. Not even go bad; just instantly don’t work out. I’m like, “What?? Oh, I guess, I better let this go for a while. Let this percolate; this isn’t done yet. I see it like a recipe, boiling on the stove. It’s simmering away; it’s just not done yet. I went and checked it; no, not just done yet, needs a little while longer. On its way, but just not quite done yet. That’s how I see this. So, I back-off when things don’t work out right away. But, it’s actually more of a surprise instead of what used to be as when things done work out: “Yeah, I knew it. See, I knew it.” Now, when things don’t work out, I’m like, “What?? What, what, what?? Does this not come together right away? Huh, that’s abnormal.”
Caller – Ok!
Melody – So, it is something that fuels itself, this positive expectation, and then, how you deal with people, and you realize that when your world is safe to walk out to, it changes how you engage with everyone. You don’t have to be defensive more, you certainly don’t have to go on the offence; you don’t have to defend. You don’t have to fight a fight. You don’t have to protect anymore because, then, you really can be that happy shiny puppy that just runs out into the world and greets everybody with love and adventure, and that’s exactly what they get. That metaphor is so much deeper than people realize!!
Caller – Thank you!
Melody – Make sense? Good!
Caller – Yeah!
Melody – Thank you my love; always my pleasure talking to you.
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