I don’t know about you, but I’ve been told to surrender countless times. It’s never a satisfying thing to hear, is it? I mean, what does surrendering even mean? And how are we supposed to surrender when what we’d be surrendering to is terrifying, or feels like we’re giving up what we want?
Well, speaking as someone who’s literally been stuck between a rock and an immovable object, I can tell you that it’s simpler than you think.
Watch today’s video to hear my harrowing tale (and the insights it led to).
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Surrender! Boy, do we talk a lot about surrender. But, what does surrendering even really mean? Well, to illustrate that, I would like to tell you the story of how I almost died.
Hi, my name is Melody Fletcher, and I teach The Law of Attraction and the technology of reality creation to highly intellectual people, just like you, in a way that actually makes some friggin’ sense.
How I almost died
When I was about 13, 14 years old, I visited my sister in Jackson Hole, Wyoming, which is a place that has a lot of outdoor sports, and one of them is white water rafting. So, we decided to go on a rafting trip. There was a guide, we did not do this on our own, and we all piled into this boat, this inflatable, little raft, basically. It was my sister and I (my sister Tina, you guys have met her), and a whole bunch of adults. For some reason the guide thought it was a good idea to put a 13-year-old girl on the back corner of this raft. I found out later, and as anybody, who actually knows anything about rafting (which I did not) is aware of, that is a better spot to put an adult and, possibly, even an adult who actually knows what the hell they’re doing.
So, we’re rafting along and we’re having a good time. It was a beautiful day, and there were some rapids, but no problems. And there was one really, really, really big rapid. It’s basically a huge rock and the water just drops over it, and then drops down. There’s a big elevation change, and it’s like a mini-waterfall. What happens when the water rolls over a rock like that is, it doesn’t just drop straight down, and then it’s all tranquil. There’s this churning action that happens at the bottom of that rock, and that is really where the danger lies; the water doesn’t just flow, it turns on itself.
And, this is such a popular spot for things to happen (oh joy), that they have photographers set up on the side of this big rapid. I guess it’s kind of like going over a rollercoaster where, when the scary part hits, the photographers take lots of pictures. Imagine me on the back corner of the boat, not knowing what I was doing, and getting out of rhythm with the rest of the group. One could call it a big metaphor of massive resistance, not being in the flow with the river, not being in sync with the others.
The photographers, when they took the pictures of our boat going by, you can actually watch me flip right out of the boat, a little bit, a little bit more, a little bit more. In the end there’s just a shoe sticking out of the water. It’s very, very, very funny, unless you’re the person who that happened to. Because, what happened is, I fell out of the boat and went over the rapid. Then, I got caught in this little churning place.
I was wearing a life vest; I’d taken every precaution, and I hadn’t wanted to sit in the back of the boat, I hadn’t asked for that. There’s lots and lots of wonderful beliefs coming up there. There’s lots and lots of resistance. It was unfair, and it wasn’t right, and I was too young. So many wonderful arguments that we could make why that was wrong, and the guide was wrong. I even dropped some hints, some breadcrumbs to help along the way, to say, “Oh yes, we can all get very outraged about this.” But, in the end what happened is, I was caught in the water, and none of those arguments really mattered anymore because I was going to die. That became clearer and clearer to me as I was fighting a losing battle. Anyone who’s gone up against water knows this (and I have on several occasions in my life; this wasn’t the only time I nearly died in water, but that’s another story for another day).
Accept what is happening in the moment
When you’re fighting against water, you can’t win. You can’t even come close to winning. Water is so powerful; the force is so strong that the human body has no chance against it. And so, you’re up against an immoveable force. I was literally between a rock and an immoveable force! All I was doing was spinning. I couldn’t tell where up was; I couldn’t tell where down was. And, the thought occurred to me, “I am going to die.” Then suddenly, instead of becoming even more terrified, the opposite happened. I actually became very peaceful, and I accepted that this was the situation, and there was nothing I could do about it. Even though I was facing what you could, logically, call the most terrifying moment of my life; it actually became very, very peaceful. There’s something to accepting the situation that you’re in, that brings a great deal of peace. Of course, when I relaxed and surrendered to the water, I surrendered to the situation; I even surrendered to my own death. If you’ve gone through any kind of change in your life, you know that sometimes changes actually feel like death. Or the fear of that change can feel like fear of death, because it’s the same fear that gets often triggered.
Surrendering to create a change
But, even as I accepted, I surrendered to my own death, the energy shifted, and the rapid spat me out, about 100 feet down. I was very afraid, and the guide was very relieved to see me alive. I think he was starting to get really frightened when I didn’t come up, and didn’t come up, and didn’t come up. Suddenly, it wasn’t so funny anymore.
At the time, I didn’t really see the wisdom in all of this. I was just happy to be alive. But looking back I can. you don’t have to be able to read energy to figure this one out. It is all about surrender. Surrendering to our circumstances; surrendering to where we are. That doesn’t mean that we don’t want things to change. It just means that sometimes you feel like you’re in between a rock and an immoveable force that is much, much stronger than you are. And, as long as you keep fighting, it keeps beating the crap out of you; but you’re not going anywhere. That’s when you do the counter-intuitive thing, the thing that doesn’t feel at all like the thing that you should be doing. The thing that scares the crap out of you. You do the opposite of fighting, you surrender. You give into it, you say, “Ok. What happens, happens. I don’t really have a choice. I can’t keep fighting; I’m running out of strength.”
The beautiful thing is that you can actually foster this state of surrender, before you get the crap kicked out of you. You don’t have to get to the point where you don’t feel like you have a choice. You can actually step into this state of surrender much earlier, which makes life much easier. When you are surrendering, you’re not saying, I don’t want this situation to change. What you’re saying is, right now, in this moment, fighting isn’t working, so I’m going to do the opposite. And, I can tell you, oh my gosh, I can tell you; it works. It shifts energy; it opens up energy every time. And, if we could just remember to surrender, clarity comes, situations change. We don’t have to let it get to the point where we feel like we have no choice. Where it’s so painful, or we’re so weakened, that there’s nothing that we can do. We can actually make the conscious choice to surrender anytime things get hard. Anytime things get frustrating, anytime we feel like we’re banging our heads against an immoveable force.
I hope that this video has been helpful to you. Please leave me a comment down below (this should be a two-way conversation). Let me know what experiences you’ve had with surrendering, or what you’re having a hard time surrendering to, and we’ll see if we can spawn another video. Also, don’t forget to like this video. Subscribe it on YouTube, if you’re watching this on YouTube, because then you’ll be the absolute first to get every new video; and YouTube likes us all better!
Alright; I will talk to you next week. Until then, smooshy, smooshy, happy shiny puppy hugs, and thank you for bringing your light to the world. Bye.