Have you ever been asked about your beliefs, about your approach to a certain situation, or about how you live your life (fearlessly!) by a person who really doesn’t get this Law of Attraction stuff? Did you struggle to find the right words? Maybe you tried to get them to understand what you believe, only to have them begin arguing with you. Perhaps you gave up in frustration, vowing to never speak with muggles again.
I recently had a conversation with a muggle who happens to be a relative of mine, who finally asked me what it is I actually do. I didn’t want to blow him off – I wanted to speak my truth. But I wanted to do it in a way that he could hear. I lined up my energy and the perfect words came. I thought I’d share those words with you in today’s video. You know… just in case you come across a muggle or two. Plus, I explain why it’s more important than ever to figure out how to talk about this stuff to others (important for us, not for them).
Coaching Call #291 is out today. The topic of this week’s call is: How Can He Release His Fear and Be Who He Really Is?
This caller recently manifested everything he wanted. Great job, great house, great car, a great location to live; everything he thought he wanted – but he still feels empty. Manifesting his dream life isn’t making him dance around the room, instead, he still feels exactly as he did before everything he wanted came into his reality.
Currently, he’s a broadcaster on British radio, but he’s also a performer, who once got on stage with a world-famous diva, and boy, how his energy lit up when he remembered that experience.
So, what’s going on with him? He has everything he wanted, so why does he feel so empty? Shouldn’t he just be grateful that his dream life manifesting into his reality? If he enjoys being a performer more than he enjoys being a broadcaster, why isn’t he doing that instead?
Listen in and I explain why, even if you manifest everything you thought you wanted, it can still leave you feeling empty and unfulfilled.
This call is for you, if on the outside looking in, you have a fabulous life, but on the inside looking out, your life still isn’t making you a happy shiny puppy.
Ok, so for today’s video I thought I would share with you what I learned from a conversation I had just a few weeks ago over the holidays. I was talking to a family member who is a total Muggle ( that’s not a derogatory term…)
Who is a Muggle?
For those of you who are Harry Potter fans, you know that Muggles are those who don’t know anything about magic or don’t have magic. So, it’s not entirely an accurate term, because it implies that there are people who are magical, and people who’re not, and we are all magical beings. But it’s people who don’t understand the magic. Who don’t understand their power, and to whom this stuff might seem like magic, or like fairy tales, or like myth, because they haven’t yet seen it as kind of a technology. And they don’t necessarily need to, everybody comes to this in their own way. But if this is the way that you resonate with this information, then it can be a little bit frustrating when people ask you about what you’re doing. You’re trying to live your life, you’re trying to go through your day, focusing on what you’re focusing on. You’re approaching things from a perspective that you’ve found, which is not a fear based perspective. When they come in with their fear based perspective you’ll try to explain to them why you believe what you believe, and what it is you believe. But you’re having trouble bridging that gap between where they are, and where you are. And then, you might feel tempted to lie.
Speak your truth no matter who you’re talking to
You might feel tempted to explain it in a way that isn’t actually your truth, but you’re trying to placate them, or make them feel a little bit more comfortable. And you might not like that. Let me share with you what I did in that situation, the words that I found in that situation. Often, I just connect with the energy and I let the words flow, and then I pay attention to what came out and share that with my clients, which helps them to get into that energetic state.
Ok, I was talking to a family member, who’s a total Muggle, and yes, he’s known me for years and years and years. At that moment, it occurred to him that he had no idea what I do for a living. He’s seen me becoming more and more successful, and so the question came up: “What is this thing that you teach?” I couldn’t put it into the same words I would for somebody who is really into personal development, or somebody who’s in to energy work. So, I found myself going back to a really general place. It didn’t matter if he agreed with me, and he didn’t have to understand the nitty-gritty of what I was doing. But it mattered to me that I spoke my truth, and it mattered to me that what I said would be heard. I didn’t have to be super detailed or go super deep. But I needed to be heard; I didn’t want the words to fall on deaf ears. I needed to find a way to convey this information, so it would be heard, and it would be accepted. He didn’t necessarily have to learn more, because if it doesn’t resonate with him, that’s not an outcome that I’m seeking.
Choose your own belief system
So, here’s what came out. I started talking about the fact that, since the beginning of time, humans have tried to make sense of why things happen, and who we are, and how we fit into this grand design. And we’ve come up with all kinds of theories, and all of them were probably valid for some time. This is just another way of doing that. It is another philosophy; it is another belief system that allows us to make sense of the world, and allows us to make sense of who we are and how we fit into this world. What I said to my family member was “It’s the belief system that I choose. Because, all belief systems are choices”. Now, this might have been a bit challenging, but we got there. “It’s a belief system that I choose, because it’s a belief system that really, really helps me. And I’ve seen it help thousands of other people. But, most importantly, I choose it because it helps me. It has helped me make great changes in my life, and a lot of other people lives. And, as long as it continues to help me I will continue on this path. If it stops helping me, then I can look for another belief system, another philosophy. It can evolve into something else.”
Be proud of your weirdness
In the past, I might have just said, “You know what? I’m a coach; I coach people. I help them; let’s leave it at that. You don’t need to know exactly what I do.” But in the last couple of months it’s become really clear to me, that it is time to own this, even around the Muggles. There’s a way to own it. You don’t necessarily have to talk to them about energy, but we really do have to speak our truth. It is time that we no longer apologize for our weirdness. No matter what your weirdness is, no matter what your freakiness is, it’s time to no longer apologize for it.
I see the world as a bunch of people who are trying to pressure themselves into boxes, and those boxes are very limiting, but they’re also safe: “This is who I am, and this is what it means to be who I am. And, it’s a very clear label, and I’m never going to deviate from that.”
There are all these boxes, and there are some of us who don’t live in the boxes, who live between the boxes. We’re trying to entice them: “Come out, come out of your boxes, it’s really fun down here.” Everybody can do that in their own time. But, throughout history, those of us between the boxes had to apologize and hide. We had to try to conform, and pretend like we were in some boxes that we really weren’t in. It’s time to stop doing that; it’s time to stop pretending; it’s time to stop apologizing. It’s time to have Mardi Gras between the boxes, and whoever wants to join can join.
Get ready to be challenged
You’re going to notice more, and more, and more, as 2018 unfolds, that you’re going to be challenged. I see it with my clients, I see it with myself, we’re all going to be challenged more and more to speak our truth. You can find a way to do that, that doesn’t trigger everybody around you. But you have to speak your truth; you have to own it. “I am doing this, I believe this, I’m choosing this, and this is how I’m stepping out into the world.”
So, when somebody comes to you and wants to pull you into a fear based perspective: “Aren’t you worried that you’re not going to make enough money if you quit your job and do this thing that you love to do?” Or “Aren’t you worried that you’re never going to find a man if you don’t lower your standards? Or “Aren’t you worried…” – blah, blah, blah (insert crap here). That we don’t just go “Oh gosh! You know, maybe I’m a little bit worried.” Instead of trying to placate them, we say “No! No, I’m not worried. I choose to not be worried. I choose to focus on me getting what I want because I don’t think it’s impossible for me to get what I want.“
You don’t actually have to be that confrontational about it, but inside your head you want to have that conversation. Then you can be a little bit softer, perhaps, if appropriate, with your friend or family member. But, don’t back down from the truth; don’t back down from your truth. And figure out what’s important to you, as you’re sharing. For me, it was important that what I said was heard. But it wasn’t crucial that I express everything that I am, and everything that I teach to this person in nitty-gritty detail and that he understand me perfectly. But it was important that I spoke my truth.
And so, when people care about you and they’re worried about you, and they worried that you might not make it with this new philosophy, the thing that you want to focus on is that you’re alright. Tell them that you know what you’re doing, that you’re doing this consciously and deliberately, you’re not going into things blindly, you’re not completely delusional. Because usually your family just wants to know that you’re going to be ok.
When you’re talking to people who are questioning this philosophy or what you’re doing, calling it a philosophy, calling it a belief system, calling it something that you choose because it has helped you – those are all ways to soften the landing. You don’t want people to feel like you’re triggering them, or beating them over the head, or trying to convert them. That you’re not proselytizing; you’re just giving your point of view. You’re just saying, “This is me; this is why I do this.”
You tend to have much better conversations, even with people who don’t get this at all, and who don’t want to get it. You can still have that little bit of connection. Enough that they understand, you’re doing this deliberately. At some point they might even ask you for more information, because they see that your life is really working, they see that things are happening for you with little or no effort. And then they may be curious enough to ask: “What is this thing that you do?” Or they might not. But, this is how I found talking to Muggles really works and keeps them open minded, keeps you open minded.
Hopefully that was valuable to you! And if so, then go ahead and give us a like, comment down below, tell me your own story. Tell me what was most valuable to you, and go ahead and share this video with anybody who you think it might be helpful for. So, until next time, thank you for bringing your light to the world. Happy, shiny, smooshy, happy shiny puppy hugs to all of you. Bye.