What do you do when you’ve been working on a manifestations for a LOOOONG time, and you know, you’re totally zen about it and everything, and you’re looking forward to it manifesting in perfect timing, and you’re not really complaining or anything, but you’d really rather just that IT MANIFEST ALREADY GODDAMMIT! We all have that one thing that’s really important to us that seems to be taking forever (or at least, longer than we’d like it to) to come in. In today’s video, I explore what to do when you can no longer ignore the impatience.
Coaching Call #207 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: Can She Get Her Mind Out Of The Way And Manifest A Successful Business?
This caller has her own business, designing kitchens. She wants it to be a success, but she doesn’t know how to take it to the next level. She works long hours, and her fear of disappointing her clients causes her to not charge them for any additional work she does. She just feels she should be offering more regardless of the extra work it creates for her.
Most of her work is from referrals and although she believes she should be out here marketing herself it’s not something she’s comfortable with. So how can she take it to the next level when she offers so much for free and she doesn’t like marketing herself?
Is there anything we should be doing when we have our own business? How can we change the feeling of “I should do this” to “I choose to do this”? And, how can we get into a good feeling place about charging money for the service we offer?
This call is for you if you have your own business and you’re ready to take it to the next level.
Awesome Lynne’s Burning Question:
“Melody, I hope you can shed light on my situation. I can manifest things fairly easily, and I am of the ‘Think less about it and it will come’ creators. However, with the desire I am trying to manifest, i.e., the relationship I want, believe it or not, I will see a movie with a man with the exact attributes I am looking for, treating a woman exactly as I am looking for. I know my thoughts are out there being heard, and as much as I enjoy the movies and knowing ‘someone’ is responding, I seem to be missing a huge something-something here. Can you please help? I appreciate any help you can give me. I am trying not to let it affect me, but after months of this happening, it is. (Yes, it is kind of incredible to think is happening, amazing how things work! But still, would rather have the relationship than a movie, you know?)”
I do know Awesome Lynne! So, here’s the thing: You know that frustration that you’re feeling at the fact that it hasn’t shown up yet: that’s a piece of resistance that you’re not paying attention to!
The gifts that keep on giving
This happens with the big manifestations that we work on for a long time, or it happens with those big pieces of unwanted manifestations that I call “the gifts that keep on giving.” We get to a place where we’re genuinely good about it, and then over time, something starts niggling at us, but we’ve decided “Nope I am good; I have released resistance, I am good on this; this does not bother me anymore because I am done with it! I am ready to manifest it!” And then, something starts getting bigger and bigger and bigger and it starts to nag at us, until we finally say, “Oh My God, WILL YOU MANIFEST ALREADY!!”
There’s a piece of resistance in there, and for you perhaps, the relationship is the issue that’s the gift that keeps on giving, which means it’s a big manifestation that represents all kinds of different pieces of resistance, and it has the ability to get your attention on many, many different levels. It’s the thing that you care so much about that you can keep going with this work; it keeps drawing you towards it. It’s enough of an incentive for you to release more and more and more resistance.
Before you sit there and say, “I wouldn’t need that and that’s unfair!” Let me tell you, if you are really honest with yourself, if this issue was resolved, would you really keep going? Would you really be willing to take a look at the parts of yourself that haven’t yet been integrated? Would you be willing to step into that discomfort over and over again? Or would you just say “F-it?”
I’ve not met a person who, upon honest self-reflection, has been able to say, “Yeah, I totally would.” If that was actually true then the “gift that keeps on giving” issue would resolve itself. We all have that thing, some of us more blatant than others, and for some of us it’s more bothersome than it is for others. It depends on how big of a life you are reaching for, and how much resistance you are clearing.
Step into the feeling of frustration
That frustration that you are feeling is something that you want to take a look at. Go ahead, step into it, and see it for what it is. Don’t run away from it because you think you should be past it at this point. Telling yourself that you’ve already released so much resistance, and god dammit, you’re done with it, you’ve decided you’re done with it, you are just going to manifest this now, you don’t want to release anymore resistance, doesn’t help.
You can release some resistance, you can get to a place where you feel generally good about it (the thing you want) and then as you keep expanding, you’ll hit that next issue, and it will come up as a bit of negative emotion. You don’t want to run away from that (as you haven’t really in the past, you know, otherwise you wouldn’t have come this far…), instead you want to take a look at it and feel that frustration. Also remember that frustration is you pushing; you are trying to MAKE IT HAPPEN. There’s something going on here, and you need to take a look at how it makes you feel for you not to have this thing. How does it feel for you not to have this relationship? What’s coming up? There is another layer for you to address here.
Sit with the emotion, sit with the feeling, let the messenger that is the feeling bring you its message, and then it will go away. Another piece of the puzzle will resolve itself and another big boulder will come out of your way, and you will go further down the path towards what you want.
I hope that I’ve answered your question and I’ve explained it clearly enough to your satisfaction.
This has been this week’s Q&A. For now, I’m Melody Fletcher, author of Deliberate Receiving. Huge hugs to all of you and see you next week. Bye!