How often are you having the following conversation with yourself?
“I should be doing so much better than I am right now. I should be further along than I am in my life. I should be doing something else. What should I do? Should I do that? I probably shouldn’t do that, right?”
Are you caught in the shoulds? If you are, you’re actually sabotaging your manifesting success in a way that you may not have thought about before. But don’t worry, because in today’s video I’m going to share with you a simple but very powerful and fast technique – something you can do in the next 30 seconds to help you shift out of the shoulds and back on track to manifesting success.
So stayed tuned and watch today’s video!
Coaching Call #204 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: Can She Remove The Blocks That Are Stopping Her From Manifesting The Reality She Wants?
This caller wants to make big changes in her life, but right now there are too many blocks in her way. She wants to start her own business but can’t until she gets qualifications that are recognized in her chosen industry, meaning that people will then seek her out.
She also wants to move locations and live with her partner but can’t do that either until she sells a house she bought with her ex-husband. If only she could sort this stuff out, then and only then, can she move into the reality she wants.
What happens when we make prerequisites responsible for us getting what we want? How can we line up our energy, get out of our own way, and remove the limiting beliefs we have about creating the reality we truly want?
This call is for you if you believe that certain things need to happen before the Universe can bring you the reality you want.
Hey my Happy Shiny Puppies! I’m Melody Fletcher, author of Deliberate Receiving: Finally the Universe makes some freaking sense!, and in today’s video I’m going to share with you how to get out of the shoulds. It’s going to be a real quick one! Are you ready?!
Replacing the word should with a more empowering phrase
All you have to do is replace the word “should” with a different phrase, but before I give you that phrase I’m going to give you a tiny little bit of explanation first.
When you ask the question, “Should I do something?” – who are you asking? Who are you asking for permission or for advice? Well, here’s a hint! It’s someone outside of you!
You may not actually be able to answer that question, because you’ve never actually defined who it is you’re asking. You’ve simply learned to ask outside of yourself. That is the definition of giving away your power. You’re giving it to someone else and you don’t even know who you’re giving it to! Who is supposed to determine what you should or shouldn’t do with your life?
If you replace the word “should” with the simple phrase “want to” you instantly take your power back and here’s how:
Q – “Should I do that?”
A – “I don’t know, should you?”
Q – “Do I want to do that?”
A – “No, I really don’t want to!” Or, “Yes I totally want to!”
It becomes an answerable question. You can’t answer the question “Should I do that?” – no-one can; but you can always answer, “Do I want to do that?”
Stop judging yourself
“Should I be further along in my life?”
That question contains a lot of judgement. The reason you’re asking it is because you are saying, “Yes I think I should be and something has gone wrong.”
Soften it with the words want to. “Do I want to be further along in my life? Well yes, I do want to.”
From the “want to” perspective, now you can actually do something about it. “What do I want to do?” There’s no judgement in wanting but there is judgement in “should”. When you take the judgement out of it, it instantly opens up a lot of energy. Again, it brings it back to you, into your scope of power.
Watch for the word “should” and start replacing it with the phrase “want to” and see how your perspective starts to change.
That was today’s little tiny nugget of LOA!
For now, I’m Melody Fletcher, author of Deliberate Receiving. Huge hugs to all of you and see you next week. Bye!