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I’ve noticed how so many people tend to crap all over their enjoyment of life; they don’t give themselves permission to celebrate even pretty spectacular stuff. Watch today’s video below, to find out if you’re doing this, and how to stop.
Coaching Call #203 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: How Can She Coach Clients In Weight Loss If She’s Not At Her Ideal Weight Yet?
This caller has a coaching practice helping clients to understand the relationship their bodies have with the food they eat. She wants her practice to be a huge success but her doubts creep in because she’s not yet reached her own ideal weight. She’s concerned that clients won’t seek her out because she’s not, in her view, 100% perfect herself yet.
Can we coach people when we haven’t achieved perfection ourselves yet? What does it mean to be 100% perfect, and is that really something we are striving for anyway?
This call is for you if you have a desire to help others but you don’t believe you can bring value to anybody unless you’ve achieved 100% perfection yourself.
I was having a conversation with one of my clients the other day about how we often sabotage ourselves from truly enjoying life and really enjoying the moment, and I recalled that in the 90’s I was living in Las Vegas where I was a dealer in a casino for almost 5 years (one of my past lives, in this life).
The divide between the locals and the tourists
One of the things that I observed back then between the locals and those people who came to Vegas a lot, who were in the know and were used to the establishment – they knew how to act in Vegas, was that there was a real divide between them and the tourists, those tourists who maybe hadn’t come to Vegas before. This divide is always there in resort towns or establishments that have a lot of regulars and non-regulars.
You’ll also see the same thing happening in cities where there’s a lot of tourism. For example, in Barcelona, where I lived, you could see the divide with the locals (and the people who considered themselves locals, even though they’re foreigners), when the tourists came in. This divide can usually been seen by the level of enthusiasm that people have.
The local people in Vegas who went to the casinos and gambled a lot barely gave things a second glance. There are these huge casinos in Vegas with gorgeous decorations, things that look like the Eifel Tower or a little New York and other amazing creations (the size of small cities really) that the locals went by every day, but because they’re used to it, they didn’t give anything another glance. So the people who came to Vegas a lot or who lived there, they usually didn’t have a whole lot of emotion going on. They’d put their chips in, “Meh!” Maybe they’d lose a hand, “Meh!” They’d place another bet, “Meh!”, even win a hand, “Meh!” Everything was kind of “Meh!”. There wasn’t a lot of emotion when they won; there wasn’t a lot of emotion when they lost; there just wasn’t a lot of emotion.
I dealt very high stake games, but every once in a while I’d get a break from those tables and I’d be put on the $5 tables which is considered a low limit table – the lowest limit table that large casinos have; for example $5 blackjack. I’d get some tourists from the Mid-West who’d never been to Vegas or they’d only once been to Jackpot or Reno. These guys were placing a $5 bet, and don’t get me wrong, $5 per bet can add up to a lot of money, but in Vegas terms it’s not an incredible amount of money. If these guys won, or god forbid got a blackjack, they would lose their goddamned minds! They would be high-fiving the entire table and joking around having a fantastic time. If they lost, they’d still have a big reaction – “Oh, I thought I had that one! Better luck next time; its ok!” They’d jokingly rile each other up; they were having the best of times.
I always enjoyed dealing at those tables because they were having such a party! But I also remember the disdain from the locals (I was considered a local although I’d only lived there for 5 years, because working in the casinos meant you were considered a local). This disdain that the locals and the dealers had for people went something like this: “Oh, look at them getting excited about $5. I can’t believe these people get so excited about five dollars!” The locals and the dealers obviously didn’t think $5 bets were worth getting excited about.
They’d also point out the people who were rubber-necking at the buildings and say, “Look at them looking at the buildings (that we walk by every day, because aren’t we special!) And can you just get out of my way?! You’re slowing everything down! Stupid tourists…” You see this behaviour a lot in cities where there’s tourism.
There’s this whole psychology that when you’re used to something or when something is deemed small, like a $5 bet, that it’s not worth getting excited about. But what we are really saying in that moment is: “That’s not a big enough deal for me to get into a state of enjoyment for.”
Give yourself permission to enjoy what you are doing
I know that many of you are not extroverts, many of you are introverts and you may be bristling at the idea of having to come out and be all “Woohoo, that’s amazing!” You don’t! What I’m saying is give yourself permission to really enjoy what it is you’re doing. How you choose to express that is up to you.
I always wonder – if you can no longer enjoy what it is you’re doing because you are so used to it now, or you’ve deemed it to be such a tiny deal, then why are you doing it? Why not go and do something new? Why do we have disdain for people who are enthusiastic about something and who are showing that enthusiasm? Is it because we have deemed it as not a big deal? Is it not cool? Is it more cool to be cynical and not enjoy your life?
It really is about the tiny little moments
Our lives are made up of tiny little moments, billions, trillions, cajillions of tiny little moments. Many times we try to focus on the big stuff that we hope is coming, but that’s still in the future, instead of focusing on all the little stuff that’s going on around us all the time. There are so many more of those moments.
From a Law Of Attraction point of view, of course, enjoying and focusing on the moment is a great way to get into the now, where all your power is. If you are enjoying the moment, even if it’s something small, if you’re just giving yourself permission to really enjoy it and celebrate it and you look for ways to get into that state, guess what you are doing with your energy? You are saying, “More of this please.”
You are not saying “more of these tiny little things please”, but rather you are saying, “more of the things that I can get ridiculously happy about; more things that I can get stupid enthusiastic about please! Bring me more stuff like this please. Fill my life with stuff like this!” Because I don’t want to be sitting on the couch going, “Meh!”; I don’t want to go to a beautiful foreign city and say “Meh! Been there, done that – next!” I don’t want to be bored!
So what I’m suggesting that we all do is: To do what we enjoy but also to enjoy what it is we do.
For now, I’m Melody Fletcher, author of Deliberate Receiving. Huge happy shiny puppy hugs to all of you and see you next week. Bye!