So, there you are. You’ve raised your vibration; you’ve figured out what you really want; you’ve spent time adding some momentum to your desires. And now, you’re waiting for inspired action. And waiting… and waiting some more. And this little voice in your head (or your family. With a megaphone) begins to ask: aren’t you just being lazy? Shouldn’t you be getting out there and be doing something? Anything? Everyone who does this LOA work goes through this transition, and especially those how are used to pushing themselves to make things happen, can have a bit of a hard time with it. Today’s video should offer some relief for those of you who are getting a wee bit stressed out about not taking enough action. Yeah… you know who you are.
Coaching Call #189 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: How Can He Feel Worthy When He Sees Himself as Overweight?
This caller has a negative belief that he is unworthy and this unworthiness is reflected by the fact that he sees himself as overweight. When he takes his clothes off in front of a lover, he thinks he has deceived them because he believes he hides his size very well in the way he dresses.
Listen in as I take this caller back to the point when he was first told he was overweight, and listen to the technique I use that helps him to release his feelings of unworthiness. We learn what it is he’s holding onto from his childhood that stops him from loving himself, just the way he is.
N.B. The caller briefly mentions his childhood sexual abuse experience.
This call is for you, if you have what you believe to be a weight issue, and it stops you from loving yourself, just the way you are.
Awesome S asks:
“Hi Melody, I have a question: How do you become motivated again to work towards your dreams? Before I found the law of attraction, I worked really hard towards the things I wanted, was inspired, and hustled. I made things happen. However, since learning about inspired action and the importance of feeling good, I’ve become very lazy and stopped taking action towards the things I want. I don’t even feel inspired anymore to do much to reach my dreams or live them now. I feel like I’ve become very lazy knowing the law of attraction. I’m really stuck in my life and feel unmotivated to plan to make things better.”
Here’s my answer:
Well Awesome S, this is a question I get a lot, and I’m really grateful to get a chance to explore it with you.
When you start to do this work, you often get to a place where you feel unmotivated and it feels like you are just floating and lost, so let me explain that a bit here in this video. In order to do that, I first need to explain to you what the “Spectrum of Empowerment” is. This is like a spectrum of energy, so think about a number line (don’t worry we are not going to do Math here), and it has a zero in the middle of it and it goes off to minus one, minus two and minus three to the one side, and plus one, plus two and plus three over to the other side. The negative numbers are where the negative emotions lie, the positive numbers are where the positive emotions lie, and zero is the middle point – what I call the threshold.
The Spectrum of Empowerment
Most people are living on the negative side of the spectrum; they have negative emotions and a lot of resistance. This is where we are motivated primarily by pain avoidance, or pain minimization. Most of our choices come from which option feels less crappy, which option feels less painful. Most of the time people will do something not because it’s joyful, but because it’s less painful than the other choice that they think they have. This is the negative side of the spectrum.
As you start doing this work and as you start getting more sensitive and you release resistance, as you are becoming more aware of how you feel, you can then make it to the zero point. The zero point is a neutral point, what most people believe is the goal. They think, “If I can just get to the point where there is no pain, then I’m done.” But they are forgetting about the whole other side of the spectrum, the positive side of the spectrum where joy, creativity, and flow are.
The important thing to realize is that your motivation on the positive side of the spectrum does not come from pain minimization, but from pleasure maximization; it’s not pain avoidance. You’re making your decision not longer based on which one is less painful, but rather which one is more pleasurable or more awesome. This is a 180 degree shift and when you get to that zero point it can feel a little bit numb and a little bit lost for a while, and here’s why:
If you’ve been hitting your thumb with a hammer for a while and then you stop and you caress your thumb with a feather; you won’t feel that feather! It’s far too subtle! Your thumb is throbbing and you are feeling the relief of not hitting it anymore so it will go numb for a while as you recover. Once the nerve endings have recovered, then you will be able to feel that subtle and pleasurable sensation of the feather caressing it.
What you have to remember is: At the upper end of the spectrum, the more positive you get, the more subtle the vibrations get, and the more subtle the energy gets. You can still feel it but you have to let go of banging your head up against the wall or banging your thump with a hammer.
You are going through what I call “The Void” and the Void is the recovery period between your thumb getting numb, then recovering, and then you being able to feel the pleasurable sensations. It is also the 180 degree shift you are making from being motivated by pain to now being motivated by pleasure.
We often don’t trust, especially in the beginning, being motivated by pleasure because what you are looking for is the pressure that you are used to from being negatively motivated by pain. But now that it’s fallen away, you’ve started thinking you are no longer motivated by anything. What you want to look for is the pull of the motivation on the positive side of the spectrum; the pull towards awesomeness, towards pleasure. Yes, it’s more subtle because it’s not painful; it’s pleasurable.
When you are in the Void, you’ll want to go really, really general and just focus on visions, ideas, places, and activities that make you feel good, even if they have nothing to do with making money or pushing you forward in any one of your goals. Just get yourself into the frequency of feeling good and see what good feeling things you are being led to do. You can train yourself to follow the pull of awesome rather than being pushed by pain. It does take a little bit of time to make that switch over, and everybody who does this work goes through that. I did, everyone I know did, and the thousands of people I’ve personally coached went through it as well.
It works the same for everybody, including you, so don’t despair and don’t start to feel you are doing something wrong because you don’t constantly feel that push or that pressure anymore; let the more subtle motivation of pleasure come through. Remember that when you start beating up on yourself thinking you are doing something wrong, you are heading back into the wrong direction, and you don’t want to do that!
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Until next time, bye!