So, you’ve made your list of stuff you want to manifest. But now you’re unsure as to which one you’re supposed to focus on first. Is it possible to work on more than one manifestation at once? Watch today’s video to get the answer to this often asked question.
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Coaching Call #181 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: She’s An Actress Who Dreams Of Becoming a Superstar.
This caller is an actress who wants to take her career to the next level. She would like to land the lead in a big budget production and desires the financial success that comes with it. She wants to be the one who gets to shine. She wants it all – so why hasn’t it happened yet for her?
Listen in as we discover what’s stopping her biggest dream from showing up in her reality, and listen to how we work through her misguided insistence that she should keep herself small and humble.
This call is for you if you’re just too afraid to dream big but your desire to move your life up to the next level is itching away at you.
Awesome Carolyn’s Burning Question
“Hi Marvelous Melody. I’m on the second read of your Deliberate Receiving book, and found myself making a list of all the wonderful things I’d like to manifest, such as financial security, a dream home, a great job, as well as things like being healthier, more spiritually connected, greater confidence and “not giving a fuck” (not caring or concerning myself sooo much with what people think).
Anyway, I ended up with 19 things on my list, and I’m sure I’ll add more as I pick up more Desire Coins (see, I have read your book!) 🙂 So my question is: How do you deal with having lots of things you want to manifest? Can you focus on all of them at once? I guess some are connected and will follow on from one another, such as a great job leading to abundance, leading to dream home for example… Or is it better to focus on one at a time, or a few at a time? I’m guessing the feeling is going to be the same for several of them, so could be focused on at the same time? What’s your advice on this please? Thank you!”
Here’s my answer:
Well Awesome Carolyn, thank you so much for asking this question, because it’s one I get all the time, and I appreciate the opportunity to be able to answer it here.
Does what you focus on grow?
When you focus on something, it doesn’t really matter what it is you’re focused on, what matters is what that thing represents to you. The metaphor that I use in the book is this: If you were to stare at an apple, and going with the concept of: “You get more of what you focus on”, then that apple should just grow, right? Its frequency should just keep getting larger, but that’s not what happens. 100 apples don’t generally spontaneously drop out of the sky just because you keep staring at that apple!
Here’s what happens: As you keep looking at the apple, it will activate a certain frequency unique to you, within you. Whatever that apple means to you, what it represents to you, which could be a myriad of different things (it’s a very unique thing to you), gets activated. That then starts the progression of manifestation, meaning the progression gets bigger and bigger, and then bigger and bigger manifestations start to come in. First, you have an emotional feeling, followed by thoughts, memories and ideas, synchronicities show up, and finally large physical manifestations and inspired action comes into your reality.
As you are making your list of the things that you want to manifest, what you’re doing here is making a list of things that represent awesomeness to you (I’m just going to put it out there like that, very general). So, why do you want these things? Well, it’s because they make you feel a certain way. Can you generate that feeling within you by focusing on that one thing or is it easier to generate that feeling within you by focusing on something else instead? If focusing on something matches a certain feeling and you can achieve that feeling (you activate that frequency), then it must come in. It’s not that you visualize a house and by doing that you’re telling the Universe that you want a house, and the Universe brings you a house; it’s that you activate the “frequency” and then everything that matches that frequency (that feeling) has to come in. In other words, the Universe already knows what you want; it’s up to you to receive it, not to create it. Why the hell do you think it’s called “Deliberate Receiving”!
Is one manifestation responsible for another one happening?
Here’s the other thing that I read in your question that I want to point out, which is really important: Never create a chain of manifestations; never make one manifestation responsible for the bringing about of another. For example, you believe you have to get a job so that you can get a house, you have to get a job so that you can have abundance, or you have to lose 10lbs before you can have a relationship, or you have to have a relationship before you can be happy… If you create this sort of chain, all that’s happening is you are adding a whole bunch of resistance, thereby limiting the avenues by which your manifestations can come. Guess what! You don’t necessarily have to get a job in order to get abundance, you don’t necessarily have to get a job to get a house, and you don’t necessarily have to have a huge bank account before you can get a house. You need to see all these things as independent manifestations. One manifestation is not responsible for the bringing about of another.
Which one should you focus on?
Whatever feels the best to you! The better you feel, the faster those manifestations are going to start coming in. The only reason for making that entire list is because as you go through it you can use the items to see if there’s any resistance within them. For example, you might focus on a house and think, “OMG, I can totally see the house that I want, it feels so good, it makes me jump up and down, and I feel my heart opening, I’m breathing bigger and I feel so joyful, I almost want to jump out of my skin, I’m so happy when I think of that house!” But when you start thinking about a job, you don’t feel as happy about the job as you do about the house; you have resistance around the job. If you can stay off the subject of the job completely and focus on just the house, great! If the job keeps coming into your mind – “Got to get a job, I really need to get a job – I need to get the job so that I can get the house…”, that is a piece of resistance that you then want to work on releasing.
An easy way to do that (I explain this progression in much deeper steps in the book), but the one I’m going to remind you of here is to simply visualize yourself having the house, without necessarily having the job. Keep practicing getting into a really good feeling about the house so the prerequisite gets taken out. You then negate the thing that you think has to happen so that you can get what you want; the thing that you think has to happen so that you can feel the way you want to feel.
Allowing your manifestations to come to you
A list of 19 things is great; you can work through them and see if there’s any resistance in any of them. But, ultimately your manifestations will come about and your resistance will be brought up by you simply focusing on whatever topic (even if it isn’t on this list of 19), that makes you feel the best! Go play with a puppy; go have a great time, go on vacation and lie on the beach (you can do your best manifesting there), and do not worry about it; do not make yourself responsible for making it happen – allowing things to happen is our only job. Allowing things to happen does not feel frustrating, it doesn’t feel hard, it’s not hard work, there’s no pressure involved.
You are probably making this too hard and you are over thinking it a little bit here by asking yourself which one do you need to focus on. Remember that it always comes down to the way you feel. It’s your emotions that let you know first and foremost which frequency you are lining up with. The path and the goal have to feel the same. You are not going to get to a happy life on a difficult, horrible path.
You know that you are on your way, you know that you are building the progression of manifestation that you really want (I know I’m using a lot of terms here, that if you haven’t read the book, might be a little cloudy at this point), and you are bringing about the manifestations that feel a certain way, when you are feeling that way.
I hope I’ve answered your question, and I haven’t confused you anymore! If there’s still something that’s unclear, or you have any more questions, or maybe you’d like to enter the discussion, please leave a comment below.
Huge happy shiny puppy hugs to all of you, and see you next time.