Sure, it’s easy to manifest a parking spot. We’ve all done it, right? But why is it so much harder to manifest the really important stuff, like a huge pile of money, a great job or a wonderful relationship? Why are the small things so easy, while the big stuff is so elusive? Today’s video explains why some manifestations seem easier than others, but really don’t have to be. You’re welcome!
Coaching Call #177 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: She Wants Know How to Honor Her Needs and the Needs of Her Autistic Son.
This caller wants to know how she can honor her own needs, while also providing for the needs of her autistic son. They’ve just had a traumatic year together and now it’s time to move on, but he’s fighting her every step of the way. Plus, she doesn’t really know what her true calling is.
What is her son trying to show her when he’s fighting her? How will she know she’s made the right decisions for both of them, and how will the universe support her when she’s walking on her true path?
This call is for you if you feel stuck where you are, but you don’t know which path to take because of overwhelming responsibilities.
Awesome Reggie’s Burning Question
“I have been trying to use the law of attraction for years now, and I have come to the conclusion that expectation is at the root of the law of attraction. But I cannot find any techniques on how to make your expectations manifest. What I mean by expectation is the “knowing” that you already have whatever you desire from the LOA. For example, I have noticed that the little things I think about seem to manifest almost instantly. That’s because it’s such a small thing, and I expect it almost like a natural reflex. The big things however, don’t manifest. I have not found anything to help develop expectations. I have read somewhere that expectation is increased every time you manifest a desire, that’s why novices are told to stay small when trying to manifest something. I am looking for some techniques to help keep the same level of expectation, whether it’s a small thing or a big thing.”
Here’s my answer:
Well Reggie, first of all, I would like to change the word “expectation” in your question to the word “trust”. It will then make a lot more sense, because when we are talking about the word expectation it’s very easy to get confused. There’s the general type of expectation of “Things are going to be great!” – a general expectation that good things are going to come to you. You also have very specific expectations, for example, wanting a Mercedes SLK in your driveway next week (preferably in red, thank you very much).
When we talk about trust, this is what I would translate your question as: Trust does build over time. Every time you manifest successfully and you consciously see what you did and how it then manifested, you’ll know that you actually did that. When that happens, you develop more and more trust. As everything is a progression (everything grows or diminishes), your trust will grow over time as you continue to accept the manifestations that are coming in as valid evidence that you are doing this and that The Law of Attraction works.
Why are small things easier to manifest than the big things?
The reason that small things are so much easier to manifest than the big things is because we have decided that they are BIG THINGS. We’ve decided that they are big deals and the reason we make big deals out of them is because they mean more to us. Usually when things mean more to us, when they are big deals, it means they are further away vibrationally, and we tend to have a little bit more resistance.
Finding a parking space is not a big deal; if you find one or not, it’s not going to affect your life in a huge way. And boy is it nice when you focus on having a free parking space and you get into the feeling state of that (remember that is always the key, the feeling state), and then parking spots show up. But, I’ve got to tell you, I never ever order a parking space from the Universe anymore, but I always get a parking space wherever I go, right in front, even when other people are in the car! How is that? Well, it’s because I’m in a really good feeling state, I’m in a happy, generally positive expectant state. I trust that the Universe is doing everything that it can to bring me stuff that makes me feel good, and finding a parking space right up front, makes me feel good. But a parking space isn’t a big risk; there’s not a lot of resistance to that because again, if it doesn’t show up, then you’ll get a parking space in the back. You’ll figure out some alternative.
When you’re thinking about something like a relationship, or you want a certain job, or you want a bunch of money, there’s usually a big risk to not achieving that, and a great deal of disappointment if you don’t achieve it.
How do you build trust that what you want will manifest?
The technique that I can give you for building trust (that will hopefully be satisfying to you), is not so much a technique as it is a process. Continue to manifest consciously but do so from a place of not having any specific expectations. When you get really specific about things, what you are saying is that this thing has to manifest so that you can feel the way you want to feel, but right now you don’t feel that way and you won’t until the thing that you want to manifest, actually manifests. When it does, then you will feel the way you want to feel. Do you see the cycle that you’re stuck in?
If you don’t feel the way that you want to feel now, you are not a match to that vibration and then that thing that represents that cannot come into your reality. It cannot manifest. What you want to do is to decide why you want that thing, and if you even want it (maybe you want something else instead…) As we start to ask ourselves why do we want this thing, a lot of the time our desire becomes a lot more concrete, and we are able to see that what we actually want is maybe something even bigger than that, further than that, better than that, or slightly different from that.
The difference between wanting and needing something to manifest
The next thing is to figure out how you actually want to feel and do everything that you can to get into that feeling state. One of the techniques that you can use to do that is to visualize what you want, but again, be careful not to decide that you must have this thing, because there’s a difference between wanting and needing. When you want something, that’s great, but when you need it you are saying, “I need this thing so that I can feel good, because without it I do not feel good.” Trusting will get you into that good feeling state; you get into positive expectation, anticipation. If you know you’re going to Paris next week and you already have the tickets, you’re not impatient about it because you know you’re going. You’re not constantly checking the ticket or worrying if you’re all organized. You’re just in a positive place of anticipation.
If you’re not sure if you’re going, if you’re not sure it’s actually going to manifest, now you have that impatience. Now you’re checking up on all the details; now you’re worried about it. As you focus on a visualization (you can use any visualization that you want) – you want to go to Paris, so you see yourself going; you get yourself into the feeling of what being in Paris will bring about. Then what you want to do is to look for the “Yea…Buts.” Anything that doesn’t quite feel the way that you want it to feel, that’s your resistance surfacing. That’s you moving into the direction of what you want, and now you can work on changing those elements. For example, “I don’t have enough money… Yes, but what if I did? What if money wasn’t an obstacle? I want it to be easily affordable for me.”
You start changing those elements so that you can actually feel as good about it as you really want to feel, so that you can really achieve that feeling state. Then when things show up, choose to trust the small manifestations. This is how you build trust. You choose to trust the small manifestations. You choose to say that this is valid, that this is part of your manifestation and feels like the thing you want; you recognize it and choose to trust, because there’s not much risk in that, because its small stuff. Choose to trust that it is part of the manifestation that you brought about, and that it manifested in response to what you are doing with your energy.
This is why all the teachers say start small, because it’s so much easier to choose to trust the small stuff than the big stuff. I have to tell you though, as a person who has been living this for a long time, you do get to the place where you trust the BIG stuff too! Trust is not like a switch that you can just flip, you build it up (like a muscle that you exercise), and then it will get stronger and stronger and stronger.
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Thank you so much for your questions, this has been this week’s Q &A, and I’ll see you next time.