So, you know the basics of how to manifest what you want, right? You focus on what you want in a way that feels really good and then basically let it go, trusting it will come in, in perfect timing. But what about if you have a deadline? Can you manifest your burning desires by a specific date? Of course you can! Watch today’s video below to find out how.
UK Readers: Will you come and meet me in December?
If you’re a Happy Shiny Puppy in training in England or Scotland (or are willing to travel a wee bit), I’d love to meet you in person this December! I’ve got three new events planned in the UK just before the end of the year, and I couldn’t be more excited! (US puppies, don’t despair. I am officially moving to the US in February 2016 and will be organizing events and speaking engagements on that side of the pond shortly.) Here are the dates:
Monday, December 7th – Cheltenham, UK
The Isbourne Holistic Centre – 19:00 – 20:30 – Talk, Q/A, Book Signing
Thursday, December 10th – Edinburgh, Scotland
The Barefoot Sanctuary – 19:30 – 21:00 – Talk, Q/A, Book Signing
Sunday, December 13th – Birmingham, UK
Tree of Life – 10:00 – 18:00 – Full Day Workshop, Q&A, Book Signing
You can also find all the events, on the Live Events Schedule Page. Buy your tickets now, they’re going fast! I can’t wait to meet you in person and give you a big, smooshy hug!
Coaching Call #174 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: He’s A Songwriter Who Needs The Approval Of Others To Feel Successful.
This caller is a songwriter who knows he should have all the success he wants by now, but it’s just not happening for him. It’s been his dream since he was a little boy, so why hasn’t it happened yet? He doesn’t just “want” success; he “needs” to be successful. He believes that when other people approve of him and his music, then he’ll know he’s made it!
What’s the difference between wanting something and needing something? What does the universe bring us when we desperately need something to happen? How can we align our energy so that what we want comes to us?
This call is for you if your wanting has turned into needing (and it’s still not showing up), and you’re constantly looking for the approval of others before you can feel like a success.
Awesome Edelweiss’ Burning Question:
“I was wondering what you do when your desired outcome has a time limit. For example, I would love to take my parents travelling and to do that I need to change my work situation (more leave!) and my financial situation drastically. The thing is, I would like to do this before they are too old to really enjoy it and there aren’t that many years left. Or, I guess the classic example is if someone wants a family before they hit menopause, or while they are young enough to not end up with teenagers in the house when they are ready to retire. I was just wondering, if putting time limits on manifestations is most likely to put a ‘limit’ on them, how do you deal with those things that really do have time limits?”
Here’s my answer:
Well Awesome Edelweiss, thank you very much for your question. This is one that a lot of people struggle with. Of course the best answer to this is to try and do things without deadlines, to just trust completely that everything happens in perfect timing. In a perfect world that would always be the case but in the real world, we really do have deadlines.
What do you do when you have a hard deadline?
First of all, determine that you actually have a hard deadline. So for example, you don’t want to have teenagers in the house when you’re at retirement age. That’s kind of out there and not a hard deadline; it’s not something that has to be done by next Friday. The fear doesn’t come from thinking you’re not going to do it in time; it’s a fear from thinking that you’re not going to do it at all. You’re not going to get what you want, and that’s a different piece of resistance from believing you’re not going to get it done in time. Therein lies the clue.
What does a deadline do for us?
So, you’ve manifested a hard deadline, there’s an agreement with other people to hit it, and it felt good when you first set it. But now that deadline doesn’t feel so good as you get closer to it. The deadline is just an indication of when it’s going to be done, not by when you have to get it done. Remember it’s never about you having to make it happen, it’s about allowing it to happen. For example, when I had my deadline for publishing my book, I recognized that the deadline was the date for when I was going to get the book in. If I had thought about that deadline all the time with thoughts of, “OMG what if I don’t get the book done by then?”, I would have been focusing on the energy of “What if I don’t get the book done? What if I can’t do this?”, instead of assuming I can do this. I relaxed about it, creating a different emotional state. The deadline is simply telling you it will happen by then. Isn’t that convenient?
We always want the Universe to tell us by when something is going to happen and when it does we freak the hell out! Isn’t that nice?! Having a deadline will bring up a lot of our resistance, for example, saying, “I have to get it done by then, and I don’t actually trust that I’m going to get it done by then; I don’t trust that I’m going to get it done. I don’t know how I’m going to get it done; I don’t know what needs to happen to get it done.” None of that is very useful for you actually manifesting what you want.
The challenge with a deadline is to clean up your vibration and to maintain that trust – that high vibrational state, all the way up to the deadline.
Here’s an example from my own life
The shooting of this video was in early September, by the time you guys watch this, it will probably be a few weeks on. I’m shooting the video in Germany and I’ve just left Barcelona where I had a hard deadline because I was giving up my apartment. I cancelled my rental contract, the power, the cable etc., and I wanted an easy out, but I did not want to sell the furniture or move heavy things. I just wanted to take my personal belongings, the things I really cared about, the things I wanted to ship to the United States, but nothing else, and leave. I wanted easy; that was what I was envisioning.
Someone came into my life and said they would take my apartment with everything in it, and I thought “Great! Easy-Peasy!” Then that fell through; so I had to readjust. In the first moment I said, “Oh no, is it going to be hard now? Oh wait a minute, why would I create that…no, no….it’s going to be easy!” So I had to readjust to the state of it being easy. Then someone else came along and said they would take the apartment with everything in it… Yay! And then that fell through!
It kept going like that, I kid you not, until the week I left! I just had to keep holding the vibration that it would be easy. I did create a plan B, not a plan B that was particularly satisfying, but it gave me the security that I had a plan B, which was to have someone come in and pick up all the furniture. That would have been pretty easy, too, but it was a little bit more “hassle-y” than leaving it all there. I thought if that did manifest, well ok, that’s still a relatively easy out. But, I continued to hold onto the vibration of easy, easy, easy, and in the last week, I kid you not, someone did come in and take the apartment with all the appliances and all the furniture, and I actually had that easy out that I’d been envisioning all along.
When I lamented to a friend and said, “Gosh, really? At the last minute?!”, they so helpfully pointed out that I tend to do everything at the last minute, and that it all happened in perfect timing! That’s my own personal pattern: everything happens at the last minute. So I thought, “Touché!”
The challenge of a deadline is to keep your energy up and keep that trust, which is easier to do when you don’t have the deadline. The benefit of a deadline is that it does tend to bring up our resistance and our fears much more viscerally because now we are putting pressure on ourselves, and that pressure lets us see the negative emotion that’s there more clearly. You then work on releasing that resistance by getting into a better and better feeling state and trusting. Remember, you cannot fake this; you can’t just tell yourself its going to be alright when you’re actually sitting there full of fear. You have to get into a good feeling place; do whatever you need to do to get there. Focus on any other topic if you need to, so that you can feel better, and then trust that it will happen. It will challenge you to do that more when you have a deadline but then, it will manifest every single time.
I hope I’ve answered your question. If you think that this information might help others, please do share it on social media with those people who you think might also benefit from it. And if you’ve had to deal with deadlines (who hasn’t?), or have a question of your own, I whole heartedly invite you to leave a comment below.
Thank you so much for your question! This has been this week’s Q &A, and I’ll see you next time.