Everyone gets down now and then, but what happens if you’re feeling so powerless, that you can’t even see the light? What if you’re in total despair? From an energetic point of view, is there a purpose for despair? Well, yes! Watch today’s video to find out what it is.
Coaching Call #172 is out. The topic of this week’s call is: How Can She Have A Successful Business As a Shamanic Practitioner?
This caller believes she is starting from scratch again, following her divorce. She needs to find a job and have money of her own, but what she really wants to do is start a business being a Shamanic Practitioner. She doesn’t know if she can make it happen, and she doesn’t have the confidence to just go for it and make it the success she wants it to be.
What does she need to do to get herself into alignment with what she wants? When is the right time to take action and how can she make her dreams a reality?
This call is for you, if you believe you’re starting all over again (well, for anyone really), and you have a dream job in mind, but turning that into your reality is something that you’re struggling with.
Awesome Waaza’s Burning Question:
“My question is about the nature and possible (positive) functions of despair. Is despair something given to us by Mother Nature and thus useful in some ways? If yes, which ways?
Here’s some background to my question: I am a biologist and often see human feelings as functions for maintaining life. For example, pain is an alarm to make us aware of physical injury. From a biological perspective, almost everything is “useful”. Fear is an alarm for danger, and maybe depression itself (which I see as the most unbearable suffering of the soul) might actually achieve a survival function as a drive to allow us to finally switch away from some strong but deadly attachments/habits/way of life (because depression drives people to radical changes).
So my question is: what is the nature of despair?”
Here’s my answer:
Well Awesome Waaza here’s the thing: all negative emotions are useful, so you put your finger right on it! There is a purpose for everything and that purpose can be seen in a positive way; it is helpful.
In my book, Deliberate Receiving: Finally, the Universe Makes Some Freakin’ Sense! (shameless plug, I know but I’m going to get it in there!) I go through the whole emotional spectrum and I actually give you a definition for all the emotions. Today I’m actually going to go a little bit further on the nature of despair than I did in the book because there’s only so much you can do in a book. Thank you so much for asking this question and allowing me to go a little bit deeper into this.
The difference between despair and depression
Despair essentially is utter hopelessness and its right there in the depression group which is the lowest group. Depression at its core does serve the purpose that you mentioned. It is so painful for us to be in that state that it’s what I call the Cattle Prod Method of Growth. When something becomes so painful that it feels like being hit with a cattle prod, that you finally have to change direction.
Depression, if I’m going to define depression versus despair (they are very close to each other)… for me depression is more of a passive state, like you’re lying there in the fetal position and letting life just beat up on you, and you’ve given up all hope. Where despair is a little bit more active and this is actually slightly dangerous territory (I don’t mean dangerous in a bad way but it’s the best word that I can find for that at the moment). Despair can become more active out of a sense of absolute desperation and this is where a lot of suicides happen, because we will do anything, we are finally willing to stand up out of that fetal position and we are willing to do just anything, anything at all to lessen the pain. We just want out!
If you are going to look at the positive aspect of that, I want to point out that despair is slightly higher up on the emotional scale than depression, which means at that point you are willing to do something. You don’t need to do something drastic in terms of ending your life or taking a lot of drugs (despair is also where a lot of drug additions and self-medication happens), but you want to do something. The positive of this is that you are starting to move in the right direction on the spectrum; you are starting to move slightly towards empowerment. Despair is slightly more empowering than full on depression where you feel so powerless, you can’t even do anything about it.
The hope in that statement is that if you keep moving up the spectrum, and my book lays out an entire plan for how to do that, if you keep moving up the spectrum, you can get past the despair and then you’ll actually move into anger at some point, which will pull you out of the powerlessness.
There is hope; there is a light on the horizon; there is a light at the end of the tunnel. If you keep moving and recognize that despair is actually feeling a little bit more powerful than where you came from, which is full on depression, that you are moving in the right direction. If you just keep moving, it will better.
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Huge happy shiny puppy hugs to all of you, and see you next time.