What exactly is beauty? What does it even mean when something or someone is “beautiful”? And most importantly, how can you see yourself as more beautiful? Watch today’s video Q&A and find out!
Coaching Call #168 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: Making Peace With God/Finding the Courage to Perform on Stage.
This call is a monster call. We started off talking about the caller’s upbringing in a strict Catholic household and how she’s now learning that God (I used the word God as it resonated with this caller) is about love and not about judgment. We looked at God through the perspective of love and not fear.
We then delved into her limiting beliefs about being a performer and why she thinks she’s not good enough to get up on stage and sing, although she has an amazing voice.
Her childhood beliefs about God and her fear that she’s not good enough – are they connected? This call is for you if you want to find out more!
Awesome Alex’s Burning Question:
Dear awesome Melody,
“What is beauty? From an energy point of view, I think if people knew what beauty really was we could adopt that belief and have much better view of our bodies.”
Here’s my answer:
Well you’re absolutely right Alex! If we do know what beauty is then we can feel better about ourselves, and that’s really the clue to your answer. There is not one standard of beauty; everybody is always looking for that one standard of beauty. What is beautiful? What is beautiful in the media? Other people try to fight that and say, “Well that’s not what I think beauty is!” Some people, for example, see in the media that thin is considered beautiful and then somebody comes out and says, “Well I think curvy women are beautiful, or curvy men are beautiful.” Then you get somebody who comes along and says, “What?! Are you skinny shaming now? Are you telling me that skinny people aren’t beautiful?”
All of that fight always comes from the fact that we think there is only one answer that everybody has to adhere to, that there is one standard of beauty. I will tell you how many standards of beauty there are: As many as there are human beings on this planet. That’s only the human perspective though, animals, plants, rocks and trees; everybody gets their own perspective as well.
A better question to ask
The question shouldn’t be “What is beauty?” The question should be, “What is beauty to you?”
When you are in the state of seeing something as beautiful, you are actually in the state of appreciation, with non-judgement. You can look at something and say, “I think that this is beautiful and I’m not going to look for anything within it that isn’t quite so beautiful; I’m not going to see anything that isn’t perfect. To me this is beautiful; I’m going to appreciate this. This person is beautiful; I’m going to appreciate them.” You get to decide what is beautiful to you; you get to notice what is beautiful to you. The less you look at the stuff that isn’t beautiful to you and judge it, and try and get it out of your reality so that it doesn’t ugly up your reality, the more beauty you will see. The more you focus on beauty, the more beauty you see. Be careful though, not to fall into the trap of saying, “This is beautiful”, as in, this is the standard of beauty.
Everything can become beautiful to you
I think we would all be very well served if we all added the disclaimer To Me, as in “This is beautiful to me; I think this is beautiful; I consider this beautiful. Do you consider this beautiful? Do you consider something else as beautiful? What do you consider as beautiful? … Oh, that’s really interesting.” Do this instead of fighting each other. Sharing what we feel is beautiful with each other will always bring more beauty into our lives because I’ve got to tell you, when you really start to adopt this mindset, you will consider yourself much more beautiful because you cannot get into a state of appreciation for everything and not include yourself!
Everything then becomes beautiful. I meditated on an Angler Fish the other day, and if you’ve never seen an Angler Fish, look it up on Google, hit images and…..brace yourself! By the conventional standards of beauty, this fish is not a beautiful fish and yet I realised its absolute perfection, its absolute beauty. It’s such a piece of amazing biological technology, I couldn’t help but find it beautiful. When you include the spirit and the consciousness of every living thing, and that actually includes everything in it, and you connect with that, it just becomes even more beautiful.
Never concern yourself with what somebody else thinks is beautiful or if somebody else thinks you are beautiful, because all they are telling you is whether they’re currently in a state of appreciation when they look at you – or not. It tells you nothing about your own ability to see yourself as beautiful.
I hope that I’ve answered all of your questions contained within this question. If not, if you have any other questions or want to join the discussion and have something to say about this topic, leave me a comment below. As always when it comes to these potentially volatile topics, I’d like to remind people to please stay respectful. If you listen to the video, I explained why you might want to fight with each other – maybe don’t do that and just express what you feel is beautiful and allow other people to do that as well.
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