First off, apologies for missing last week’s blog post and thank you to all of you who mailed me, wondering if I was still alive. I totally am. I was simply caught in a post-Peru coma, a sort of foggy, exhausted state that I tend to experience after I’ve done massive amounts of inner work, and I had to spend more time than usual on self-care. I am now coming out of that fog and have started to catch up on my long overdue and massive To Do list (while continuing to feel good, of course!)
Second, I have an exciting announcement for my UK readers. I will be speaking at the “I Can Do It! Ignite” event in London, on Sunday, March 15th. So, if you want to come out and see me and/or the other amazing presenters, you can check out all the details here. I’ve also added a new page where you can see all of my upcoming speaking engagements: Live Events Schedule. More will be added shortly. Yay!
Coaching Call #139 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: Moving From Depression To Creating The Life You Want.
This caller suffers with depression and is in therapy but she’s feeling a lot of anxiety about what to do once it ends.
She’s spent her entire life doing what other people have told her to do and doesn’t feel she’s in control of her own life. Her negative self-talk is keeping her from creating the life she truly wants.
What are the common causes of anxiety and depression? How can we stop the negative self-talk and become the powerful creators that we’re meant to be?
If you’re feeling depressed and you’re not sure how to lift yourself out of it, this call is for you.
In case you missed last week’s coaching call (because I didn’t freaking tell you about it…), you can see a listing of ALL of the calls here (and yes, I’ve finally updated it…).
And now, for this week’s blog post!
Awesome Natalie’s Burning Question: “Dear Magical Melody (someone else called you that on a post a few years ago and I really like it haha), I understand that we get what we focus upon. But I’m just now realizing this applies only to frequencies, not to actual subjects? For example, if I focus on a specific subject, I’ll get the frequency that matches the frequency I associate with that subject. This may well be said subject since this is the path of least resistance for that frequency to manifest. Or it will be something else as long as the frequencies match. I was wondering if you could clarify this for me and others. So many LOA teachers say “thoughts become things” and leave it at that, which is what used to confuse me.”
Dear Awesome Natalie,
What an excellent question! And you’re totally right. This is one of the, if not THE most confusing aspects of the Law of Attraction. Does like really attract like? Do you really just get what you focus on? I mean, if that were so, and you stared at an apple, wouldn’t that apple start to grow? Or wouldn’t you suddenly end up with a whole basket full? Maybe apples could just start raining from the sky… But that doesn’t happen, does it?
We, in the LOA teaching world, like to talk about “frequencies”, as in “You get more of the frequency of what you’re focusing on.” But what the hell does that mean? Physicists can measure the frequency of all objects, that’s true, but if they focus on something intently, does that frequency increase somehow? If you stare at a head of lettuce while it’s hooked up to a machine, will there be a spike in the readings of the lettuce’s “energy”? Will it get more intense, or “bigger” in some way? Well, no, not exactly. While focusing on the lettuce with love or hate will cause changes in its vibrational signature (scientists have recorded this!), it won’t “grow” and become bigger. It will not spontaneously multiply, nor will someone just mysteriously show up with more lettuce (not usually, anyway). Yes, like attracts like, but before that statement actually makes sense, you have to understand what “like” we’re really talking about.
Let me introduce you to a new term
When I and many other teachers (not all, but the ones that really make sense) are talking about “frequency”, we’re not actually referring to the physical frequency of an object. We’re talking about its representational frequency. What does that mean? Well, you may have heard quantum physics talking about the role of the observer – that the very act of watching an experiment play out can change the outcome of said experiment. From my point of view, quantum physicists have only just begun to scratch the surface of the importance of the observer, because the observer doesn’t just influence the outcome, he or she determines it. It’s just that we don’t determine the outcome of our reality (or an experiment) by shouting “I decree that it must be so!” It’s a touch more complex than that.
When you focus on something, anything, it represents something to you. If it doesn’t, like, not at all, it won’t even get your attention (and therefore won’t be part of your reality). Some objects or ideas represent something very important to you, while others barely matter. But it all means something to you. What that is, is an intensely personal experience, and no object or idea represents the exact same thing to any two people. Your perspective, how you see things, or what stuff represents to you, is uniquely yours.
So, let’s say that you’re focusing on a beautiful painting. As you do so, the frequency of what that paining represents to you, its representation frequency, will be activated. What determines the representational frequency of something? Your beliefs, your experiences, and also, if you’re doing this deliberately, your choice. As you activate this frequency, more representations of it will come into your reality – first thoughts and ideas, then physical manifestations. These representative manifestations may or may not look like or even similar to the original idea or object you were focusing on. But they will represent the same frequency to you and will therefore feel the same – they will elicit the same emotional response from you as the original point of your focus. So, while you may end up actually owning that painting, you may also very well not. But you will manifest something that feels exactly like that painting does to you. Why can’t you just get the damn painting? Keep reading…
As I said, you can deliberately choose and therefore change the frequency of an object or idea, although in practice (as opposed to theory), it’s often easier to just focus on something else; something that already represents a different frequency to you. But, it is possible and sometimes necessary.
Let’s say that you’re in a situation that you can’t immediately change, like a horrible job you hate. Simply quitting right this second isn’t a good feeling choice – you’re broke and you haven’t yet manifested a new option. So, you’re going to want to find a way to feel better about the job, or change its representational frequency, while you’re still working there. How do you do that?
You simply change your perspective; you change the way you’re looking at it. For example, you could begin to see this crappy job as temporary, instead of feeling like you’re permanently trapped there, like a summer job that’s there to serve a purpose, but definitely has a finite duration. You could imagine that it’s your last week there, which will free you up even further. Have you ever quit a horrible job? Have you given some notice, say two weeks, only to find that you totally stopped hating the people, place and work during those last two weeks? Suddenly it just wasn’t that bad. You were able to laugh off events that drove you borderline homicidal just a week earlier. Why? Because you had a different perspective; you stopped feeling trapped; you knew that you were getting out of there. The job didn’t change. YOU did and how you looked at it did, and therefore, its representational frequency did, as well.
Using this concept to manifest faster and more easily
Ok, so why is this even important to know? You may be thinking, “Ok, I get it. When I focus on something, I get something that feels like what I’m focusing on. I kind of already knew that. Why make this distinction?” Because, a lack of understanding of the concept of representational frequency can cause us to slow down or even block our manifestations. Here’s how:
Let’s say that you want a new, awesome car. You’ve been told about vision boards, and so you make one. You find pictures of your dream car, you cut them out and paste them to a poster board. You make sure that these pictures evoke a great feeling from you. And then you sit back and wait for the car, the thing you’ve focused on, to arrive. You’ve decided that you want that car, and only that car will do. And so you sit and wait and sit and wait and sit and wait and then you write me an email asking me where your damn car is, because after all, you’ve focused on it and you’ve been feeling good, so WTF LOA?
Here’s where it went wrong: you don’t want the car. You think you want the car, but you don’t. You want what it represents. As you focus on the car’s representational frequency and allow yourself to feel it (don’t resist it in any way, so it feels good), more manifestations that represent that same frequency will come in. Sometimes, ok often, these manifestations don’t look like the thing you focused on. You may manifest a different car, a car that you didn’t and couldn’t have known was actually even MORE awesome than the one you were focusing on. And if you are not open to that happening, because you’ve determined that only the car you’ve been picturing will do, you will not get your manifestation. I can hear pennies dropping all over…
It’s like you’re ordering in a restaurant, and you’ve told the waiter that you want something sweet and chocolatey, and then you demand that he bring you the meatloaf (because it looks chocolatey). He keeps trying to give you the chocolate fondant, but you’re having none of it. You stamp your feet and demand the meatloaf, but since he knows that what you really want is the fondant, he’s not going to give you the meatloaf. Of course, it’s entirely possible that your continuous disappointment at not getting what you want will actually line you up with the meatloaf (which feels disappointing, because it isn’t what you really want), at which point the waiter will bring it to you. You might feel a moment of triumph, until you take a bite.
This concept of representational frequency is the whole reason why you should never get too married to any particular manifestation, and focus as much as possible on the feeling of it. You may think you’ve found the perfect representation of what you really want, but honestly, given the infinite number of options possible, and your (by design) limited perspective, that’s really highly unlikely. You’ve, at best, found A representation, but it’s almost never going to be the perfect one.
Your imagination is just the start
What I’m saying is this: whatever you can imagine, that’s just the starting point. You can do so much better, or at least, the Universe can. You see, your imagination, what you can envision, is tied directly to your vibrational range, where your vibration is currently at. You can’t really see much beyond your horizon. That doesn’t mean that there’s nothing beyond that horizon, you just can’t yet perceive it. You have no way of visualizing it, or of manifesting representations that go beyond your current ability to imagine. But they are there, and as you keep raising your vibration, as you continue to become more and more of a match to Who You Really Are, those manifestations that you can’t even conceive of right now will start to become accessible.
Allowing the best possible representation of your focus to materialize is an integral part of manifestation. Think about it: the only reason you wouldn’t allow this is because you’re afraid that if you don’t get in there and determine what the stuff you want has to look like, the Universe won’t get it right, or that it won’t happen at all. This fear is a form of resistance and it slows everything down. If you, however, focus on what an idea or object represents to you, how it feels, and what it is that you really want, and if you can trust that the best possible representation you can currently allow will come in, everything you’ve ever wanted will start flooding into your experience in exciting and yes, surprising ways.
The second reason that this concept is so important is because it so clearly demonstrates why you can’t get the same results as someone else by focusing on what they focused on. You can’t copy what someone did or said or how many hours they worked or what methods they used. If you want to copy someone else’s results, you’ll want to mimic how they felt – find the representational frequency of what they manifested and become a match to that. A luxury car will not mean the same thing to someone else as it does to you. This principle works both ways. You can’t look at someone’s negative manifestation and determine what it means to them either (unless you just ask them how it feels). This is why statements such as “he’s poor because he focuses on poverty” don’t hold up and why blaming others or yourself for what you focused on doesn’t help. A better statement would be “he’s poor because he’s been taught to focus in a way that makes him feel the way poverty feels to him, and he keeps perpetuating that feeling without realizing it.” As a teacher, you wouldn’t be able to help this person change their vibration without first figuring out (and helping them figure out!) how what they’re focusing on feels and, and finding something that genuinely feels better. In other words, simply focusing on “being rich” might actually underscore the same feeling you’re trying to change.
I know, I know; this entire blog post has basically been telling you to focus on how you feel, which is a message you’ve probably heard thousands of times. But in my experience, knowing WHY something is important goes a long way towards actually implementing it – taking it from theory to practice. After all, the reason we teachers keep reminding you to pay attention to how you feel is not only because it’s important, but because so many people keep forgetting to do it. The concept of representational frequency will hopefully help to keep you on track so you can focus on what’s truly important to you and become a manifesting machine. So, you’re totally welcome. Ha.