Coaching Call #122 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: How Childhood Beliefs Create Unwanted Adult Experiences.
This client was recently and unfairly fired from her job. In fact, unfairness has been a pattern that has plagued her throughout her life. She’s come to expect and accept that this is how things are for her. Most things haven’t worked out, so why should now be any different?
Listen in as we dig through a tangle of childhood memories and discover the root belief. This call is an excellent demonstration of how to quickly find and go about releasing a large, underlying belief like this.
If you think life has been unfair to you and you’re someone who believes they can’t have what they want, or you feel you have deep seated beliefs and would like to learn how to release them, this call is for you.
Awesome Lo’s Burning Question: “Sometimes I wonder about the line between intuition and manifesting due to LOA. Here’s a cheesy example, but I think it best illustrates my question: I had been talking to a gentleman in hopes to start a closer relationship. After a while of our conversations dwindling, I got a gut feeling that he had met someone else. I kept seeing in my mind his Facebook status as saying “Mr. Gentleman is now in a relationship.” Sure enough about a month later I found out that he had indeed met someone and I found out via a Facebook newsfeed that “Mr. Gentleman is now in a relationship.” So I had that original gut feeling, but I also kept visualizing the Facebook notification. Similar instances happen in all areas of my life (e.g. thinking about getting jumped in the parking garage and then it actually happening). My question is really, does intuition and LOA intertwine? How so? Is there a way to tell the difference between if I’m attracting something due to LOA or if it’s my intuition trying to get my attention?”
Hey there Awesome Lo,
Thanks so much for this brilliant question. This is something that just about everyone who deliberately works with their energy (and therefore their reality) bumps up against sooner or later.
Here’s the deal: EVERYTHING is due to LOA. The Law of Attraction is the mechanism by which what you focus on grows. It’s the machine that causes a vibration which you’ve activated through your focus to draw more energy which feels the same to it. Basically, the Law of Attraction is responsible for ALL of your manifestations, whether you like them or not.
But, how does intuition figure into all of this?
What is Intuition, anyway?
Your intuition, in a nutshell, is your awareness of your vibration, or your awareness of the energy of what you are manifesting. You can use your intuition in several ways.
First, your intuition will tell you if are focusing on something you want or don’t want. In this case, your intuition will come to you in the form of emotional feedback. If you are experiencing a positive emotion, you know that you are lining up with wanted manifestations. If you are experiencing negative emotions, you know that you are lining up with unwanted manifestations. So, if you are focusing on Mr. Gentleman, and it feels good, good feeling experiences will come to you. Keep in mind that these experiences may or may not involve Mr. Gentleman. He has come into your reality as a representation, a symbol, something to focus on, but not necessarily the delivery boy for further manifestations. If you are focusing on Mr. Gentleman and it feels bad in any way, bad feeling experiences are on the way (again, they may or may not involve Mr. Gentleman).
The emotional feedback is the first opportunity you get to change your vibration, if you so choose. So, if something feels bad, back off and figure out what it is that you’re focusing on that feels bad. You don’t have to let something manifest before you can make a change. Although, you often will.
The second opportunity you get to make a change will be your thoughts, memories and ideas. If you ignore your emotional feedback, you will get some images in your mind that let you know what’s about to manifest. These images can be literal translations of what’s about to manifest (like seeing yourself get mugged when you are actually about to be), or symbolic representations (like seeing yourself get mugged, when your business partner is about to screw you over). In either case, these images can also be described as “intuition”. What you actually “see” in your mind depends largely on how your particular brain translates energy, on what kinds of representations are most likely to help you get the message, and how close you are to the physical manifestation.
Listen to your intuition!
No matter if your intuitive feedback is purely emotional, or if you’re already seeing images in your mind, the key to manifesting what you want is to LISTEN TO THE FREAKING FEEDBACK! I’m sorry, I don’t mean to shout, but honestly, I can’t stress this enough. This is what Deliberate Receiving is all about – paying attention to the feedback you’re getting and adjusting accordingly.
In your case, you were getting a bad feeling about Mr. Gentleman, as well as some images of what was about to happen. And then, it happened. Did you do anything wrong? Nope. There is no right or wrong. There is only what you prefer and what you don’t prefer. As you’ll see, the experience, at any stage of the manifestation, can help you to figure out what you’re doing with your vibration. That brings us to the next logical question: could you have prevented this outcome (him meeting someone else and dropping you) if you had managed your vibration differently? Maybe, maybe not. You see, it’s not about Mr. Gentleman. It never was. He’s just a representation, a symbol, a tool if you will (pun fully intended).
You see, it’s not about forcing Mr. Gentleman to be your one and only. You can’t do that. You can’t manifest in someone else’s reality, ever. What is it about? Your experience. What you want is to be in a loving, wonderful, adventurous, passionate, kick ass relationship. If you line up with that and Mr. Gentleman is not capable of representing that to you, he will gravitate out. How do you know if he is or not? I know that many of you aren’t going to want to hear this, but it’s totally irrelevant.
What is relevant is that you line up with what you want, and then let whomever matches that vibration come in. So, how do you know if you’re lining up with what you want? Well, that’s where your intuition comes in. How do you feel?
Your intuitive insight that he was about to meet someone else, showed you something. It made you feel a certain way. This was your message. The actual event felt exactly the same, only in an amplified way. I’m betting the idea of him getting his flirt on with some other woman didn’t exactly feel good. But how, exactly, did it feel? What bothered you about the idea, precisely? Most people will never dissect this. They just take it for granted that feeling bad about certain things is the only appropriate response and they never dig any further. You’re not going to be like most people, though, are you?
So, dig into the feeling and sit with it. See what comes up for you. Let the Law of Attraction bring you more insights that feel this way, more information which will let you know what it is that you’re focusing on that doesn’t feel good. This will have NOTHING to do with Mr. Gentleman. It’s always and only about you.
For example, you may discover that you feel angry with Mr. Gentleman. You want to rip his head off. This surprises you because even though you liked him, your anger seems to be totally out of proportion to how invested you actually were in this relationship. You sit with the anger and a memory surfaces, one that feels exactly the same as what just happened to you. You remember a time when you were a teenager and your best friend dropped you for another bestie. You were devastated at the time. You just didn’t understand why. You wondered what was wrong with you that she no longer wanted to be your friend. Had you done something wrong? Why would she choose someone else over you?
You continue to sit with this feeling and the memory, and as you do, another memory surfaces. This time, you were five years old when your dad left you and your mom for another woman. Again, you were devastated. You came to the conclusion that if you had only been “better” somehow, he would’ve stayed. Now you’re getting the whole picture. You’re not really mad at Mr. Gentleman. You’re still dealing with an old decision you made about yourself, that you are not good enough, and that this is mirrored back to you (proven to you) by others choosing someone over you. So, when someone chooses another over you, it’s “proof” that you’re not good enough. Of course, this belief will manifest this proof over and over again.
But, is that true? Are you really not good enough? Was it truly your fault that your dad left, or that your best friend abandoned you? Of course not! A five year old has no sway over whether her parents break up or not. And if your friend was so willing to drop you, perhaps she wasn’t that great of a friend to begin with. We tend to romanticize our past, and give people and relationships all kinds of qualities that weren’t there. I can’t tell you how often I’ve coached someone who insisted that their relationship was “perfect” right up to the moment that their partner left them out of the blue, only to discover that there were tons of bad feeling signs leading up to the event that they’d simply glossed over. If your dad left you when you were five and you never heard from him again, he wasn’t a good dad. If your bestie dropped you for seemingly no reason, she wasn’t a great friend. If this sounds like I’m blaming them, I am. Here’s why:
When you are stuck in self-blame, the way out of that is to direct the blame outward, at someone else. This is a temporary measure, meant to move you out of your emotional state. This is also where anger comes in, which I’ve written about pretty extensively. Thinking that it was their fault will feel better than thinking it’s your fault. This will allow you to release your anger, and move on. Then, you don’t have to blame anyone anymore. You can get to the stage where it becomes apparent that Mr. Gentleman is not really what you wanted. You may not always know exactly why not, but you can trust that if he didn’t stick around, he didn’t fit the bill.
Once you’ve had a bad feeling experience, whether it be a physical manifestation or an intuitive hit, and you work with the energy (the emotion) allowing yourself to shift it, your vibration will change and you’ll begin to manifest something else. You’ll be able to focus on what you really want (the awesome relationship) in a way that feels good, without insisting that it come through any particular person. You’ll be able to trust that you will get what you want, and that whatever manifests is part of the process that will get you there. Please remember that you can’t fake this. You can’t just state that you trust your manifestations and feedback. You actually have to do it. You have to actually feel that way. This is why you have to engage with the emotional feedback you’re getting, with your intuition – it will tell you if you’re faking it or not. Saying pretty words while feeling bad won’t get you there.
So, to answer your question: “Is there a way to tell the difference between if I’m attracting something due to LOA or if it’s my intuition trying to get my attention?” There is no difference. They’re one and the same. Your intuition is trying to get your attention to let you know that you’re in the process of attracting something (good or bad). Don’t you just freaking love clarity? You’re welcome.