Coaching Call #099 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: She’s Sacrificing Herself in Order to Help Others.
Calling all those well-meaning souls who still think that helping others has to involve self-sacrifice; that everyone else’s needs (or anyone’s for that matter) are more important than your own. If you’ve ever felt resentful about how much you do, but aren’t willing to really stop because, well, THEY NEED YOU, this call is for you. Times a thousand.
This client was actually living her whole life in order to “benefit” someone else (I put it in quotes, because there can be no true benefit under those conditions). How can she break out of this pattern, without letting the guilt of withdrawing her help overcome her? Or for that matter, how can she, as an empath, even manage to focus on herself when she feels everyone’s pain so acutely? Yeah… this is an awesome call, complete with an empowering little rant, and everything.
Awesome Dudette’s Burning Question: “Melody, does smoking weed alter our vibrations negatively? Can it hinder or stop spiritual growth? I understand it can be negative if someone uses it to avoid emotions, but what if we are already at a high vibration before we smoke, and use it to promote a deeper sense of relaxation, or use weed to help meditation? I love the effect marijuana has on me and how relaxed and at peace I feel when I smoke, but I’m worried about the long term affects or might have on my spiritual health.”
Dear Awesome Dudette,
Here’s your video answer!
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For the “Readers” amongst you:
Well, Awesome Dudette, I think this is the perfect time to ask this question. With the legalization of marijuana being more and more in the main consciousness, and people waking up to the idea that what their neighbor does to raise their consciousness or even just to self-medicate, is really none of their business. And so, I think more and more people are going to be asking themselves, what are these plants and substances really for, and what do we really believe about them.
For me, marijuana is a drug, but I don’t mean that in a negative way. A drug, to me, is anything that alters the chemical composition of your body. So, under that definition, food is a drug. Food can be used to medicate oneself or to raise your mood; but it can also be used in a self-destructive way. And all drugs fit that description, as far as I’m concerned. You can use pharmaceuticals in a negative or positive way, as well.
What determines your experience?
The sacred plant teachers, such as marijuana, ayahuasca, san pedro, peyote, the iboga root, salvia divinorum, mushrooms, etc. – any of these divine plant teachers can also be used in a negative or a positive way. The difference between having a negative or positive experience isn’t made by the substance. What determines the outcome is the person taking the substance. So, I think we really need to stop blaming the substance, or making the substance itself responsible for the result that’s gotten out of it (even if it’s positive). So, if you use pharmaceuticals or plant teachers or any kind of drug such as food (even exercise can be a drug), in a positive way, good for you. But if you use it in a negative way, don’t blame the negative results that you got on the substance that you used. Don’t try to make that the bad guy. Understand that it was your intention and the way that you used it that caused a “negative” result.
How do these teachers work?
Now, as I said, I consider marijuana to be a sacred plant teacher. But what’s the purpose of a sacred plant teacher? Well, these plants have a certain frequency just as everything else does. They have the ability to open us up to higher frequencies, if we allow it. We still have to face our own limiting beliefs; we still have to face the obstacles that are in us before we can attain higher frequencies. But these plant teachers can help us to do that. As all drugs can, by the way.
Now, some substances, like alcohol for example, have lower frequencies, and these are going to be a really great tool for someone who’s in a really low vibration. For example, if they have a lot of suppressed anger that they’re not letting out, if they have that kind of condition and they drink a bit of alcohol, the anger comes right to the surface. They become an “angry drunk”. What we need to take a look at is WHY this person is so angry to begin with. So, it’s bringing the anger out, but the person still needs to work with it. And of course, most people don’t, so they just continue to stay angry. Their only outlet is when they drink some alcohol and let that anger out a bit, but they’re engaging in very self-destructive behavior. If they would then notice how angry they get and understand that this anger needs to come out, they could use alcohol once, see where their mood is at, and then work with it once they’re back in the sober stage (or even while drunk, providing they’re not too inebriated). But, of course, most people don’t do that.
Why some people get paranoid
Marijuana is much the same; it just has a much higher frequency than alcohol. So what it will do for you is that it will connect you with a certain frequency; it’s kind of like helping you to find an address. And as you reach for that higher frequency, if you have limiting beliefs that are blocking you from fully connecting to that higher frequency, they’re going to come up. If your resistance is very strong, or if you’re reaching really far from where you are, then you’re going to very likely experience that as fear, or paranoia. These are your own demons and limiting beliefs that are coming up. Marijuana’s not creating them. There’s nothing happening outside of you that’s scary. But you do need to take a look at what’s being brought up. If you are working with what’s coming up within you, then you’re using the sacred plant as it’s intended, and you can create permanent change in your life.
If you’re noticing that marijuana makes you feel good, that it’s helping you to deepen your meditations, and that it’s helping you to connect at a deeper level, then by all means use it that way. If you’re going to claim to use it as a spiritual tool, however, then you actually have to work with what’s coming up. Don’t make any substance, including marijuana, responsible for your spiritual growth. See it as a tool that you’re using.
What about recreational use?
From my point of view, there’s certainly nothing wrong with using marijuana or any substance, as long as you’re using it consciously. Again, the difference is made by the practitioner, the person actually using the substance. That being said, I also don’t see anything wrong with using it recreationally. Because I think that if you have a problem with recreational use of marijuana, then you should also have a problem with people using alcohol recreationally, or food, or exercise, or anything at all that changes people’s lives. I really don’t think which tools people choose to use is anyone’s business but their own.
So, when you’re using marijuana recreationally, in other words, you’ve had a bad day and you smoke a joint to feel better – if you’re doing it consciously, there’s very little chance that you’re going to have a really negative effect from it. Because you’re actually noticing that it’s making you feel good. You’re conscious about it. But, being conscious about it also means that now you’re conscious about what you’re escaping from. And that’s the point. If you’re using it as an escape, do so temporarily. But don’t ignore what you’re escaping from. That way you’re getting the benefit of the marijuana helping you to feel better, but you’re also realizing that it’s making you feel better from something that’s feeling bad in your life, which needs your attention.
What if you’re already a happy shiny puppy?
Of course, if you’re already in a really high vibration when you’re taking marijuana, and it’s still making you feel good and helping to deepen your meditations, then you can use it in line with its true, divine purpose. You can use it to commune with the very, very intelligent spirit of the plant. You’re also going to notice a big difference between using it in its pure form and mixing it with tobacco. I would recommend that if you mix it with tobacco, you use PURE tobacco, not the crap that’s in cigarettes (that’s not really tobacco, and there’s nothing really sacred about that anymore). Get yourself some pure tobacco. It will ground you and you’ll have very different experiences, no less sacred, no less spiritual, but very different. That’s something that you can use to experiment.
I’ve personally used marijuana this way, and I know quite a few people who do. I don’t really know anyone who uses alcohol that way. In my experience, the people who raise their vibration higher and higher tend to really get away from alcohol because it has this lower frequency. But marijuana can certainly be used in a very spiritual way.
How it was truly meant to be used
I think the way marijuana was really, truly intended to be used once you’ve released enough resistance, is that it shows you the way to a certain frequency, and then once you know what that feels like, you can achieve that on your own through meditation. So it shows you where it’s at, and then once you’ve felt where it’s at, you can find it again. You can then use it (marijuana) again to make the next jump. Now, if you use it that way, obviously you’re not going to be using it on a daily basis. If you’re using marijuana daily, I’m pretty sure you’re using it in a recreational fashion at least some of the time. Again, there’s nothing wrong with that. Just be clear about how you’re using it. And don’t be ashamed of using these substances. Obviously, be careful about who you talk to about this, and if you’re in a place where it’s illegal, don’t use it there. Go someplace where it’s legal, but thankfully, those places are growing in number. But, use it consciously, and I don’t think you’re ever going to go wrong with using any of these substances.