Coaching Call #098 is out! The topic if this week’s call is: How Can She Get Out of the Feast or Famine Cycle?
This wife and mother left the corporate world to start her own business. It’s been feast or famine ever since, and although she has an easy time manifesting all kinds of other wonderful signs, she can’t seem to break through financially.
We were able to delve much deeper into the idea of separating the HOW from the WHAT, which, as this case shows, isn’t always that straight forward. We also covered the guilt that comes up in people when they are not contributing financially to the family, her husband’s apparent lack of support for the business, and how her own mind has been sabotaging her by keeping her stuck in her limiting beliefs. This is one of those calls that will give you insights in multiple areas, including finances, relationships, worthiness, boundaries and empowerment.
Awesome Tracy’s Burning Question: How necessary is it really to dig up and release limiting beliefs? I’d describe myself as a naturally positive person, and I’m continuing to work on (or PLAY WITH!) focusing on moving toward what I like. It feels great! I know I still have a lot of limiting assumptions ingrained from childhood or even inherited…but they’re so ingrained it’s hard to even pin them down in order to work on them. But I’ve started to wonder, aren’t those beliefs themselves actually manifestations? And if so, do I really have to dig them up? If I’m moving toward feeling better in whatever ways I have access to, don’t my beliefs have to rise up to meet me?”
Dear Awesome Tracy,
Here’s your video response:
Watch the video directly on Youtube: http://youtu.be/Br4UGq4Vr4c
For the readers amongst you…
Contrary to ever less popular “old world” thinking, you DO NOT have to go rooting around in your subconscious for those nasty, limiting beliefs.
Remember that you have millions and millions of beliefs, and most of them are serving you very well. Hunting around in all of that for those few beliefs that are tripping you up is like, well, looking for a needle in a haystack. You can do it, but it’s going to take you a long time and it’s going to require a LOT more work. There’s definitely a better way to do it.
Say no to hunting
Now, as you so astutely surmised, Awesome Tracy, you do not have to go hunting for what you want outside of yourself and bring it to you; you can let it come to you. That’s why it’s called the Law of Attraction, not the Law of Going-out-there-and-hunting-down-and-killing-what-you-want-and-schlepping-it-home.
So, what you really want to do, in order to bring up the beliefs that are currently in your way, is focus yourself into the frequency of what it is that you want. But how do you do that? Well, you figure out what it is that you REALLY want (not what you think has to happen in order for you to get what you want) – that thing that brings up an AMAZING emotion within you, and then to the best of your ability, start to feel that emotion. By focusing your mind, visualizing, making vision boards, singing a song, listening to music, going for a walk, looking at certain pictures, bringing up memories… it doesn’t matter what tools you use to get yourself into that state, but, to the best of your ability, get yourself into that state.
Basically, what you’ll be doing is this: You’ll be going down a path towards what you want, and as you do, whatever happens to be in your way, whatever’s interfering with that RIGHT NOW, in this moment, whatever’s actively tripping you up right now, those are your limiting beliefs that pertain to this very goal. And, well, you’re just going to run into them. They’re going to present themselves. They won’t be able to help it, because they are actively interfering with the path that you’re taking.
To the best of your ability
The reason that I keep saying that you should get into the feeling of what you want “to the best of your ability”, is because if you’re not resistance free, if you still have limiting beliefs on this topic, you won’t be able to get into the feeling of what you want 100%. If you could do that, you would already be there. So, do the best you can, get as close as you can, activate it as much as you can, and then each time you remove a piece of resistance, you’ll be able to take it further. You’ll be able to get into that feeling more and more and you’ll be able see a more detailed view of what you want, while feeling good.
Here’s the 3 Step Process:
- Focus on what you want
- Get into the feeling of it to the best of your ability
- Watch for the resistance to manifest.
This means, something’s going to happen that will trigger negative emotion within you. When that happens, don’t take it as a bad sign; take it as a good sign! This is your resistance coming up.
You may have someone say something to you that makes you angry, or sad, or makes you feel sorry for yourself. When that happens, sit with the feeling; actually feel the emotion. When you do that, you’re activating the frequency of that feeling and what it represents, and then more evidence that matches it will be brought to you. You don’t have to go digging around for it. You don’t have to go out and hunt it down. Just sit quietly with the feeling and then memories, thoughts and ideas that match that feeling will come to you. And they may at first not seem at all related, but if they come to you as you’re doing this exercise, they’re totally related. Always.
Let that additional information be brought to you, and then you can look for patterns and dissect what it’s really all about. It will essentially be a decision that you made or that you adopted from someone else, that doesn’t fit what’s true for you.
So, for example, you may have decided that you can’t get love because you’re unlovable, or that men are horrible, mean people, or that the world is a horrible place and you have no place in it. There are many decisions that we make, but there are also loads of decisions that we take on from other people, such as “rich people are evil”, or “it’s not charity if you don’t suffer in the giving of it”, or something like that.
When you discover the decision that was made, you can simply make a new decision. And that’s all releasing beliefs really is. It can really be this simple. And please don’t let THAT trip you up. There are a lot of people who think that the simple methods don’t work. Of course, you can go ahead and try the complicated methods. Go on. Get ever more complicated. See how that works for you. Or, do the simple method: sit and focus and let the information be brought to you. This is how the Law of Attraction works and it is how to use it to fine tune your vibration, to get ever more into the frequency of what you want, until it can simply show up. And that’s really how easy it can be.
Little wee note to my blog readers: I’m slowly but steadily upgrading my video equipment and learning how to produce better videos. This is the first one I’ve shot using the new lights! Yay! More changes to come, so stay tuned! And don’t hesitate to let me know what you think!