Coaching Call #089 is out! The topic of today’s call is: Is She Too Old to Start Over and Do We Have to “Get Old”?
Do you assume that you’ll be growing “old” and quite possibly get sick when you do? Do you just accept certain limitations that will come (or have come) with age? This client was already feeling the pressure to get old at 60, even though she’d actually prefer to re-enter the workforce and follow her passions. After a riding accident, she was berated for being foolish enough to be so active at her age (because that’s just asking for trouble, isn’t it?).
If you want to age awesomely, but find yourself buying into the BS beliefs that some things just go south as we get older, or if you have aging loved ones that you’d like to change your views about, or if you’re already feeling old and would like to reverse your “symptoms”, this call is for you. This is a really juicy one, people, and we pull no punches. Prepare to have your beliefs firmly challenged and your perspective on age and aging shifted. But I warn you: You’ll never look at the elderly the same way again. You’re welcome.
Awesome Viorela’s Burning Question: “Here’s the thing: I’m on my way to my new love relationship. And because Prince Charming is not physically here yet, one day I just started to talk to him. In my head that is. I decided to have a walk back home from work and when I felt relaxed enough and in a good mood, I “initiated” a conversation with him, as if he were right there, walking next to me. At first, it felt like I was in a play where I had to make up all his answers, but at some point, the phrases that I got back sounded new, surprising, like in a real conversation and so funny that I had to refrain from laughing too hard because …well, you know haw passers-by react to people laughing by themselves on the streets. I’ve been doing this for a while and it feels damn good when I let it flow freely. And sometimes, when I’m a little off, this “presence” would pop-up in my head telling me to chill.
I know this voice is not my better version out there, that know-it-all-me, because that voice feels completely different. I know that one very well and I sometimes ask it for guidance. This new one is something else and has a different “feel” to it.
Who am I talking to? Is it still me? Is it him? Is it Michael Jackson? ;)”
Dear Awesome Viorela,
I think it’s obvious that yes, it’s totally Michael Jackson. In a Universe full of infinite possibilities and realities, there is a world out there where Michael Jackson has become your personal, non-physical love coach.
Shortest. Blog Post. Ever. You’re welcome.
What’s that you say? The guy in your visions doesn’t have bodacious dance moves and spends a disturbingly small amount of time grabbing his crotch? In that case, we should probably explore a different option.
You’re translating energy
First of all, congratulations at being able to communicate with your higher self. That’s awesome. And for recognizing the difference between how that energy feels and how this guy feels. It is quite different, and yet, not really. Let me explain.
Let’s remember that it’s all energy. Everything we are perceiving, physical or not, is just energy which we’re translating using our many, many senses. Our brains then transform that energy into something we can relate to and understand. When we enter energetic realms, for example, that cause us to have experiences that we have no frame of reference for (something that we simply cannot, in any way, comprehend, even metaphorically), our minds blank out and we don’t remember the experience at all (or at least, until we do have a frame of reference, at which point we have a “memory”). This kind of experience can be induced through deep meditation, shamanic journeying, when working with plant medicines, or alien visitation (if you believe in that sort of thing), just to name a few possibilities.
So, when you “create” the vision of your dream lover and he seems to actually take on a life of his own, you are, in fact, tapping into a kind of consciousness and translating it into a character that represents this energy to you. Your brain puts it into a context that you can understand. You are receiving information, and your brain presents that information to you in the form of a conversation, so that you can understand and benefit from the experience.
Who is he?
But who exactly are you talking to? Well, this one’s a little harder to answer. The response I really want to give you is: it doesn’t really matter. But that’s not going to be satisfying without a bit of an explanation, so here it is:
This could be the higher self of the person who matches the vibration of the relationship you really want and are becoming a match to. Yes, we can tap into and translate the energy of other people’s higher selves. But, remember that you can only ever perceive that which your vibration can allow. You won’t ever have access to the entire person, but only those aspects of him that match your own vibration, resistance and all. He would then have to mirror back your energy to you, giving you a chance to “fix” anything that didn’t fit what you really wanted by changing your focus to something you’d prefer instead. If you see him being an asshole, for example, you could then focus on him being really kind and nice instead.
Once your energy has changed, your perception of his energy would also change. He may then feel a bit different to you (better), act differently and even take on a different appearance. How you “see” this energy depends entirely on your perspective. So, if he’s handsome and sexy and seems like exactly the kind of guy you’d like to go out with, then that’s because this embodiment represents the feeling of going out with a handsome, sexy guy, not because that’s what his physical self will actually end up looking like in your reality. The “real” representation of him will feel the same, though. In other words, you will perceive him to be just as handsome and sexy, even if he looks totally different. And, let’s be honest, isn’t that what you actually want?
There’s more than one of him
Let’s keep assuming that you’re talking to the higher self of an actual man who will come into your reality. He’s not generally going to be consciously aware of this exchange, since it’s happening on a totally different level. And also, because you’re not talking to the specific version of him that’s living in your reality and timeline, on your version of Earth right now. You’re talking to a level (or more) up from that. And that level, that higher self, has more than one version of this dude. In fact, it has many versions of him, all with slightly (or drastically) different energies, experiences, pasts and presents. None of those guys are exactly the same, and not all of them will be a perfect match to you. So, as your energy changes and the version of him in your vision changes to reflect that, the actual physical version of him that matches you in each moment might be different.
For example, right now, you might still be insecure about something. Your insecurity will be mirrored back by him. If you were to meet up with the physical representation of that right now, your dream lover might not be so dreamy. He might be kind of a douchebag. But, if you get rid of that insecurity, you would then match up with a non-douchey version of your lover. It’s a lot easier to make these shifts while dealing with non-physical energy than actual people (because it’s easier to believe that a non-physical representation can change faster).
So, while you’re quite possibly tapping into the higher self of someone who has a physical representation in your reality, you’re never going to be tapping into just that one particular representation (that one actual person), but always something with a much bigger view. You’re not going to be dealing with any of their neuroses or limitations, for example. You don’t have to be locked into any particular character trait. Of course, you never are anyway, but it’s so much easier to allow this fluidity in personality traits when you’re dealing with a “vision”.
It’s still all you
What are the other possibilities? Well, you could be accessing another guide. A lot of people believe that we only have one guide. My own, personal experience has been a bit different. I’ve always had one main guide, although they’ve changed as I’ve leveled up. I’m currently on my 4th one. The previous guides are all part of that energy and can be separated out any time I like. The way it was explained to me is that I’m connecting with higher and higher levels of the same collective energy, like the guide’s higher self, then that level’s higher self and so on. The distinct energy signature that was my guide a few years ago is an aspect of the guide I’m now connecting to. It’s the same energy, just at a higher level, where there is more information and a bigger perspective. Or, to put it another way, I’ve been able to access more and more of this energy as I’ve expanded my perspective and when it feels significantly different, my brain translates the energy as a whole new personality.
On top of this main guide, however, I’ve always had other energies come in, as well. Some of them come in once, others stick around for a bit longer to help me accomplish certain goals. I “see” the energy of Ayahuasca, for example. We have lengthy and incredibly interesting conversations. I have connected with the energy of money, the energy of certain animals, the higher selves of others, the energy of my own body, my future self, other incarnations of that higher self, the energy of mountains, and a whole host of different consciousnesses.
But here’s the thing: The reason that we can connect to all these energies is because we’re all connected. If you follow the connections up far enough, you’ll come to realize that we are actually all ONE. We’re all different aspects of the same energetic entity. We are altogether All That Is. We are all God. So, whether or not you’re talking to the higher self of another human being, or your own higher self, or something that looks like a big plate of sentient Spaghetti, you’re really talking to different aspects of yourself.
This isn’t to say talking to this dream guy isn’t valuable or mega fun. I’m not trying to diminish the experience at all. It’s just that it ultimately doesn’t matter whom you were talking to, since it’s all just an interpretation anyway. The important thing is, how does it feel? What are you learning? How is the experience helping you to evolve? In other words, the messenger or how you see him is kind of irrelevant. What’s important is the message.
You’re doing it right
What you’ve actually done is to focus on what you want enough for you to get a manifestation. You see, since it’s ALL energy, any experience you have is a manifestation, even if it’s not “physical”. You have manifested a version of a man who closely matches what you want. And, from the sound of it, you’re enjoying the shit out of your interactions with him, which means you’re appreciating, being in the now, having fun with it, and hopefully not taking it too seriously. This is the perfect perspective to have if you want to manifest more of what you’re experiencing. Your non-physical dreamboy is a precursor to the more tangible version. Rejoyce! Use this opportunity to fine tune your vibration (check to see if anything makes you uncomfortable, for example) and rev up your momentum by appreciating that which already matches what you want.
When you’re “talking” to this vision and you’re so immersed in the experience that you want to laugh out loud, you are perfectly in the moment. You are matching the vibration of already being in that relationship NOW, which the Universe can’t help but mimic. So, as long as you let this manifestation be enough, and don’t start lamenting that it’s not “real”, if you can just keep enjoying your visions, a physical manifestation is just around the corner.
This type of play-acting is such a fun way to not only work on your vibration, but allow manifestations to come in. It’s one of my favorites (I’m a bit of a ham anyway, so acting things out is right up my alley). And, as you’ve noticed, the fantasy often takes on a life of its own. This is an advanced version of how you can use your visualizations to show you where your vibration is at. The energy that you’re currently matching up with will inform your visualization if you just let it flow freely. When you actually put yourself into the scenario of the fantasy, your fantasy will become more real, as well, and you can interact with it to a larger degree. Everything you focus on grows, becomes more dense and will eventually lead to physical manifestations. But no matter how big or burly that manifestation becomes, it can’t ever defy your vibration. It can only ever mirror your energy back to you.
Whom you’re talking to isn’t really that important (ultimately, it’s always YOU). It’s all about what’s being mirrored back to you – that’s where the valuable information lies. Because, as soon as you shift your vibration, you’ll be talking to someone else (different aspect of YOU) anyway.
Phew! We covered some big concepts today, so I hope that made sense. If not, please ask your questions in the comments (I really do read every one), and I’ll use them for future posts if necessary. Of course, if this was clear as day, I’d love to hear from you, too. 🙂