Coaching Call #061 is out now. The topic of this week’s call is: She Wants to Permanently Lose her Weight Once and for All.
This is the one you’ve been waiting for! It’s all about weight loss. This reader wants to lose “a whole person”. We explore the general, energetic reasons for weight gain, and then delve into the specific reasons for why her body is keeping her fat. I even offer some non-diet, diet tips.
Although I can only do so much in an hour (the call does run a bit long), this call is packed with as much weight loss info as I could cram in there, including tons of real world advice you can start implementing today. I even threw in my personal breakfast smoothie recipe. You’re welcome.
Awesome Bill asks: “You say that when we are out of the physical we are all knowing energies (good/positive energies?). That is… What about the bad/negative energies? Surely these two are fighting against each other all the time? You say that we can’t wait to get back into the physical to experience all the wonders of physical existence. But you only have to look to certain areas of the world to see extreme poverty, starvation and suffering. For example, a baby born to a family of 8 children in a village in mid Africa; the mother cannot provide food or shelter, so the baby has no chance to survive, never mind experience the joys of living. I am sure that baby, if he had the choice, would not be wanting to dive back into the physical. I look forward to your response.”
Dear Awesome Bill,
Thank you for your excellent question. Even though I get asked stuff like this a lot, I don’t write about it too often. Why not? Because the answers tend to be very, very hard for most people to hear and when someone can’t, then the whole subject just becomes depressing. I tend to shy away from being a ginormous downer for people, especially on Mondays. But, I also know that the reason people keep asking these questions is because they desperately want to find better feeling answers, something better than “Shit happens”, and well, that’s pretty much what I do…
Since I’ve already addressed much of this subject in a previous post called How Does LOA Explain the Suffering of the World?, I’m going to take a different approach this time. Today, I’m going to attempt to explain the whole enchilada, the big picture, the WHY of it all. Because, if you really want to understand why the “bad” stuff happens, if you really want to shift into a better feeling perspective, you kind of have to understand how it all fits into the grand scheme of things. And, after I do that, I’m going to share something really, really awesome with you that will restore your faith in humanity. Ready?
Disclaimer: Yes, I know that this is a long ass post (longest post I’ve ever written). It’s a big ass subject. Get over it. It’s also not an easy subject. If you’re an LOA newbie, this post might be totally over your head. If that’s the case, don’t worry about it. Consider this an “advanced” post, something more akin to what you’d get from me if you and I sat in a bar one night and got deep into conversation and then suddenly looked at each other and went “Wow”. So, for those who are ready for that, you’re welcome. Also, when you get up to pee, order me another cuppa tea, would you?
What about the negative energies?
As I elaborated on recently in this post, there are no negative energies battling it out with the good, for dominion over our souls (or whatever). The idea of negative energy or “evil”, which could assert itself into our reality and make bad stuff happen, tempt us to become “sinners” (there are going to be a lot of sarcastic quote marks in this post, I can already tell), or confuse us into making the “wrong” decisions, is well, excuse my French, but Bullmerde.
There is only light and the absence of light. There is no force of darkness. As Abraham likes to put it: “When you enter a room, there’s no dark switch, no switch that will fill the room with inky, misty darkness. There is only a light switch.” You can either allow the light, or resist it. It is the resistance which blocks the light, and this absence of light looks like darkness. We can tell ourselves stories about the dark, and even convince ourselves that it has powers, a force, or an evil little mind of its own. But the fact remains that to get rid of darkness, all you have to do is to turn on the light and POOF!, the darkness is gone. Basically, in a battle between EVIL and a flashlight, the flashlight wins. Every time.
So no, the light energy of Who We Really Are is not battling it out with any dark or negative energy. I realize that this is a hard pill to swallow, mostly because so many people have done their best to convince you otherwise, and because you’ve never been presented with an alternative explanation that made sense. That’s what this mega post is here for.
Why we are eager to come here, suffering and all
Why would any of us choose to be born into extreme poverty? Why would we choose to come here and be born into a third world country, only to die three months later of starvation or disease? Why wouldn’t we all just choose to be born as the new Royal Baby? What could possibly be the fun in any of this?
I’ve written before that life is like a video game. By this, I don’t mean to diminish the importance of life. This game of ours is causing the Universe to expand, after all. No, the video game analogy is more of a tool to help us get some perspective. It’s also a way to simplify what can turn into a mind blowingly complex subject.
So, reality is like a game which has been going since the beginning of, well, the beginning (consider the big bang like someone hitting the start button on this particular game, which isn’t entirely accurate but will do for this analogy). There have been other games before this one and there will be others after, but this is the one that counts right now, so we’re just going to focus on this one as though it’s the only one (again, this can get a bit complex, so I’m limiting the scope as much as I can). There is one player. Let’s call him Bob. Bob is a creative genius, an artist, a visionary and almost unimaginably curious. In the game, Bob is given a blank slate. He can create anything he wants and then experience it. He can actually step right into the game, temporarily forget he’s in a game, and therefore have the full experience of what he’s created. So far so great. Only, Bob soon realizes that if he’s to have any kind of really fun adventure, he’ll have to create more complex environments. And if he does that, then his limited perspective within the game (limited so that he can actually experience the perspective, not just witness it from the outside, like an observer), will automatically cause him to miss all but what he’s currently living. But Bob, in his thirst to know every little detail, isn’t satisfied just getting one perspective. He wants ALL the possible perspectives. He wants to cover every single detail. He wants the full spectrum, so to speak.
Bob sits down and has himself a good old think. How can he insure that he doesn’t miss anything? How can he really guarantee that he’ll cover every single possible experience there is? Well, there’s only one thing for it: Bob needs more Bobs who can go out, experience different and unique perspectives, and then bring those perspectives back to the original Bob (upload them to the mainframe, so to speak), so he can benefit from the collective experience. And so, Bob creates several avatars, or video game characters, with different levels of awareness. The first two avatars each get 50% of Bob’s awareness, meaning they can each fully comprehend, witness and even assimilate the experience of HALF of all of the possible experiences that any Bob might have. If Bob himself is Level 0, then we’ll call this first layer of awareness or perspective, Level 1. Each avatar is fully conscious and aware, but only has access to 50% of the entire possible perspective. Given the enormity of the game that Bob is about to create, this is quite a bit of information and much more than any one consciousness can fully explore. And so, Bob creates another level of avatars, splitting the original two, into two more each, while keeping Level 1 intact. This is Level 2, which contains 4 avatars, each one sentient and conscious and able to have unique experiences, which are then assimilated and fed to the avatars in Level 1, who then assimilate and upload them to Bob.
Bob then keeps on creating more and more layers, each one with a slightly smaller perspective, until he finally arrives at the layer at which each avatar can only hold one thought at any given time and therefore hold only one perspective at one time. While this is the most limited perspective of all, it allows for the maximum depth of experience, since 100% of the avatar’s focus will always be on whatever he’s directing his attention to. This is how to FULLY experience any reality.
But Bob soon realizes that he has a couple of issues: the first is that his own perspective, grand as it is, is always going to be limited. He can only imagine so much. If he truly wants to know every perspective possible, not just those currently imaginable, he has to allow for the expansion of possible perspectives. He has to allow for creation from within the game. He has to give each avatar full control over their experience, so they can use their current environment to create and discover new possibilities. By discovering new problems, ones that Level 0 Bob can’t even fathom right now, the avatars can then also discover solutions that couldn’t have been foreseen. Each avatar therefore needs total creative control, the ability to fully and limitlessly explore their domain, and move around in it freely. In other words, each avatar needs Free Will.
An infinite spectrum
The second issue that Bob discovers is that as all his Bobs go out, create new environments within the game and experience every possible angle of them, through the sheer volume of them, there will come a time when all the possible experiences will have been lived, discovered and integrated. Even with creative control, if the spectrum of what could be experienced is limited, the point will come when the possibilities will run out. In other words, if the game was constructed in a box on a computer screen, and that box was made up of tons and tons of pixels (dots), and each pixel represented a possible experience from a possible point of view, then at some point, each pixel would be used up, clicked, activated or whatever, and the box would eventually be completely filled.
If, however, Bob created the game on a spectrum, like a line with an arrow on each end, and let each end of the spectrum run on to infinity in both directions, then the possibilities of experience would be infinite. One side of the spectrum would represent the lower, denser frequencies, while the other would represent the higher, faster frequencies. Each level of avatars (each splitting into lesser and lesser perspectives) would represent a lower, denser range of frequencies, although each level would allow for a huge range of experiences. So, each avatar, having total free will, would be able to choose to reside in the lower range of that level’s frequencies or the higher range. And this is precisely the model that Bob adopts.
The thirst for knowledge
Given that each avatar is a perfect replica of Bob (and actually is Bob), just with a more limited perspective, the limitless thirst for knowledge is a part of each character’s programming or personality, if you will. And while a severely limited point of view can cause the avatars to make some pretty weird decisions and come to some pretty bonkers conclusions, the driving force behind the game – the desire to understand and gain a bigger perspective through experiences, never goes away. What’s more, there’s the innate knowledge that a bigger perspective exists, and each avatar hungers for it. It’s kind of the point of the game – to know ALL. And all the avatars have to work together (and they are, whether they know it or not, just by being in the game) in order for that All Knowing perspective to come to fruition.
This awareness of the existence of a bigger (aka higher) perspective, is also what drives the avatars to evolve. Instead of simply gathering experience after experience, each avatar assimilates what he learns, creating a bigger and bigger picture for himself (bigger perspective), gaining more and more knowledge of what the actual picture (the BIG Picture) looks like.
The ultimate truth
One could also call this the ultimate TRUTH. Think about it this way: If you walk into a room where there are 10 children and one broken lamp, and you want to find out who broke the lamp, you’re going to need information. Now, as you gather facts, your understanding of what has happened will grow. The less facts you have, the more likely you are to come to faulty conclusions (like, the kid that looks guilty probably did it, or the kid that’s standing closest or furthest away, etc.). The more facts you have, the more likely you are to get to the truth (the freaking cat did it). The highest possible perspective would be the one where you could actually be there, or watch a video of the event.
Now, what if each avatar had some kind of feedback mechanism that would allow them, in their quest for knowledge, to know if they were getting closer to the “truth”, that next higher perspective, that bigger, more encompassing view? What if you could somehow know if the conclusion you came to is the “right” one? Well, Bob thinks of that, too. Essentially, when each avatar gains another piece of the puzzle and assimilates it correctly, so it reveals a bigger piece of the whole (essentially, puts the puzzle piece in the right place), the avatar will gain life force. He will feel good. If the avatar fails to gain more experiences, he will stagnate and feel passionless. There will be a distinct lack of drive, like a parked car. If the avatar picks up puzzle pieces and puts them in the wrong places, so it distorts the picture of the whole, he will lose life force, feel awful and even begin to feel physically ill. The goal is to expand the picture and to discover more and more of it, even as it’s constantly made to grow bigger.
Each avatar can choose to gain more and more perspective or not; again, it’s all a matter of free will. Residing in lower frequencies isn’t a bad thing, since the avatar is assimilating the experiences he’s having and using them to gain a bigger view of the whole picture. Even if he doesn’t consciously understand how the puzzle pieces he’s gathering fit together, the avatar above him, the one that the assimilated information is uploaded to, will understand. There are no “bad” experiences. There are only experiences, period.
But here’s the thing: each avatar isn’t a separate character, but a level of consciousness – Bob’s consciousness. The illusion of separation is a tool to help each avatar have the full experience of whatever he’s created. So, one avatar can change levels and gain access to not only insights from a higher perspective, but fully shift into that higher perspective, if he so chooses. If we begin to bring this into how our physical reality works (where, ahem, we are the avatars, in case you haven’t made that connection), one could say that we, in the physical, have access to several avatar layers, each one with a bigger and bigger perspective, but still only able to hold one thought at a time. Even within these limitations, we can gain a bigger and bigger view of the whole picture. Gaining the highest possible perspective available in the physical range is then referred to as “enlightenment”.
At some point, our consciousness rises to a level at which we can hold more than one perspective at a time, but this frequency range is too high to exist in the physical, so we transition to a non-physical state (most people call this “death”). We then have access to all the perspectives and experiences of all the avatars in the layer below us. We are still “us”. We are still conscious and aware. We’re simply aware of more, we have a bigger view of what’s going on, we have the ability to integrate a much bigger level of understanding. We know more of the “truth”.
The downside of leveling up, is that our experience isn’t as specific. It’s a bit like watching a football game and really getting into it, and actually playing football. As much as you might love to watch, it’s no substitute for actually getting on the field. And that’s when we decide to put on our jerseys and helmets (or cleats) and get out there.
What the hell does this have to do with dying African babies?!
Ok, ok, I’m getting to that. You see, no matter what the experience is, this is where the fun is at. This is where all the good stuff happens, the forming of experiences, the decisions, the reactions, the awareness of even the minutest differences. And each possible experience must be lived from each possible perspective. As we gain more and more perspectives, collectively, we are able to see more and more of the truth. We can then choose to focus on that truth or not. We can go with the light or resist it. We can insist on jamming a puzzle piece where it doesn’t fit or even give up trying to make it fit altogether. But even in resisting it, even in our choice to essentially remain ignorant of the big picture, we are adding to the experience of the ALL.
We choose to come into these physical experiences because we don’t consider the suffering when we do so, just as you don’t worry about your character’s well-being in a real video game. In fact, you want your character to have adventures and challenges. Otherwise, it would be boring. When you consider the whole picture, each avatar as part of a whole, you can begin to see that this African baby isn’t an isolated soul, suffering for no reason. It is an avatar, here to add to the experience of the whole, giving us the opportunity to add this experience to the bigger picture and then CHOOSE which part of that picture we want to expand. If you could experience anything in the world, and you knew that no matter what it was, the real you wouldn’t be harmed, what would you choose to experience? After a few thousand times being a rock star, you might begin to get more real and test out different scenarios.
What if you knew that taking on the lowest vibrations yet to be explored could benefit the expansion of the whole? Would you do it? I’m guessing that a lot of you helpers out there would jump at the chance. I would. And in many ways, I did. And so did many of you.
How those who suffer benefit us
Yes, I get it. This is going to be a controversial statement. I’m not saying we should rejoice in the suffering of others, ok? So stop having a hissy fit. But here’s the thing: In our quest to get an ever higher perspective, a bigger and bigger view of an ever growing picture, we want to explore every possible nook and cranny of experience we can. What’s more, each experience we have helps us to fuel the next one because it invariably leads to a decision – I like this, I want more of it, or I don’t like this, I want something else instead. Even when we like something, we fine tune it. We desire some details to be a little different. When we don’t like something, we desire the opposite. These new experiences then become available for us to have (they become part of our reality = manifesting) and the process continues.
As all possibilities are explored, we continue to create more and more experiences. But because of our thirst to get a bigger and better view of the whole, we keep on expanding outward. Even though we’ve done a good job of exploring the lower, denser frequencies, the ones that offer the most twisted versions of the truth and therefore suck the life force right out of us (Dark Ages anyone), because of that pain response, our willingness to take these explorations of the dark side to infinity will always be inherently limited. But no such limitation exists on the “light” side of the spectrum. And so, over time, we evolve. The whole game keeps on moving along the spectrum, expanding towards more and more knowledge, more and more integration, more and more unity, with Bob, split into and yet still part of an infinite number of avatars, exploring his ever growing Universe to the tiniest detail.
So, what does this have to do with the African babies, already?
Well, here it is: Those African Babies have just as much right to their experience as you do. They are here, exploring that possibility, because they want to and we all want them to, not because we want them to suffer, but because the knowledge of suffering allows us all to choose something else instead. And since we are all part of the whole, one could argue (and I will) that YOU are that African baby. You are both having the experience of suffering as well as observing that suffering, so that you can add those experiences to the higher perspective, one that includes the knowledge of how to transcend these types of experiences. How you choose to experience that baby’s plight is your perspective. If the point of view you’re choosing is giving you life, making you feel light and happy and hopeful and causes energy to surge through you, then you’ve found a part of the bigger picture. You’ve assimilated this experience and put it in the “correct” place, the one that shows you where it actually fits, allowing you to choose whatever experience in your reality that you want. It’s by putting together the puzzle and understanding how the pieces fit together and then looking at the whole picture, that we begin to transcend the need to specifically experience what we don’t want. When we gather the puzzle pieces but twist them so they don’t fit correctly, we fail to see the bigger picture and continue sit there, all thumbs, trying to put the damn puzzle together.
What’s really interesting is that the person you’re pitying often has an easier time seeing the big picture than you do. In this way, you are creating your own form of suffering, and adding that to the experience of the whole. In transcending that suffering, you add to the understanding of how all of us can do the same. It really is uncanny that the people who suffer on behalf of others, often suffer more than the people they’re suffering for. 😉
A better feeling perspective
Ok, so I know I’ve filled your head with a massive metaphor, one you might need some time to get your head around. I’ve also explained why bad stuff happens and why it’s not really bad, but I’ll bet that you’re not yet feeling a whole lot better. This is because I haven’t yet offered you a solution that allows you to feel better about the dying African babies. That’s about to change.
My big message so far has been that we can’t take suffering so seriously. It’s not necessary or obligatory, and it’s not virtuous, but in as much as every experience serves a purpose, it does, too. It’s only through our willingness to see how the suffering fits into the big picture, that we can transcend it and by doing so, pave the way for everyone to do so, continuously adding to the evolution of the Universe.
Another, much shorter way to say this is: Don’t focus on the problem. Focus on the solution. If what you want is dying babies, then keep focusing on them dying. But if what you want is to happy, shiny babies, then focus on that. Don’t think that works? Think again.
Let me introduce you to a powerful, wonderful, awesome example of a charity that has recognized the power of focusing on the version we want more of: It’s called Mama Hope, and they’ve started the Stop the Pity Campaign. While most charities try to guilt us into giving money by showing us starving babies with huge stomachs and flies on their faces, portraying these wonderful people as helpless, destitute and unable to help themselves, this charity inspires us with videos of happy, joyful women, men and children who have a very good idea of how to help themselves and are doing so. They don’t NEED our help, they will survive and even thrive without it. But, if we feel inspired to play with them, to help them grow, to give them resources which assist them in joyfully and passionately moving forward, we can do so. Watch this video a 9 year old boy to get inspired!
This amazing organization asks communities what they need, instead of bulldozing over them with cookie cutter solutions. They don’t just drop bags of nutrition-less grain in the town square. They approach these communities with dignity and respect, honoring their wisdom to know exactly what they need. And it’s working. I don’t know about you, but I’m much more likely to support a project I’m personally inspired by, rather than one that tries to make me feel guilty for going to a restaurant (quite honestly, those types of campaigns are much more likely to illicit a “Oh, screw you!” than a check from me).
We are all ONE
We may have been taught to feel guilty for what we have when others have less. We may have been taught to feel pity for those we judge to be less fortunate or less capable (which, quite frankly is just arrogant and pity never helped feed anyone). But what we really love, what gets us off our feet, is passion, creativity, people helping themselves, people fighting for their joy. Because that’s what WE want to do, and we’re all ONE. When we look at some other avatar and say “You are powerless”, we are saying “We are powerless”. Now we’re both powerless and nothing changes. But when we look at them and say “You can do it! We believe in you!”, that turns into “We can do it! We believe in Us!!”, and suddenly we’re all working together. We focus on what we want and we achieve it. Collectively.