Coaching Call #044 came out yesterday. The topic of this call is: All About College: Grades, Life Passion and Goals, Pressure from Parents.
This college student is having a hard time. Her grades, which have always been great are suddenly down, she’s feeling overwhelmed and stressed, and doesn’t know how to deal with the pressure and expectations of her family. During the course of the call, we dealt with her current lack of passion, looked at how to improve her grades the easy way, and delved into cultural and religious beliefs. While this caller was young, you’ll glean some old school wisdom from this call.
There’s hardly a subject in the world that has more limiting beliefs associated with it than money. Nearly everyone wants more of it than they have, which, in Law of Attraction terms means that nearly everyone is somehow resisting the money they so desperately want.
My coaching clients are no different when it comes to ye olde finances and I frequently find myself addressing this topic. In the last couple of months, I’ve found myself using the same metaphor over and over again, which is always my cue to spread whatever message I’m incessantly repeating to a larger audience, namely y’all (you’re welcome). The beauty of this particular metaphor (actually more of a series of metaphors all smooshed together into a MEGA METAPHOR) is that it hits a whole variety of beliefs all at once, but does so gently. So even though beliefs about money can vary greatly, this particular perspective tends to help no matter what your own personal resistance to massive abundance is. There is one group of people who will have a hard time with this perspective – those who cannot allow any good into their lives (not love, not kindness, nothing). For those people, I would recommend that they first start with learning how to love themselves. The rest of you, strap in. This is going to be good!
Money is just energy
Let’s start with the premise that everything is energy. And if everything is energy, then it stands to reason that money is nothing but energy, as well. Everything that comes to you in your reality is in direct response to what you want (your desires) and what you allow in (your lack of resistance or lack of thoughts and beliefs that contradict your desires). That’s really the Law of Attraction in a nutshell.
If we think of money as nothing but a stream of energy, it sort of takes scarcity out of the equation. If you picture a big pile of gold, and you take some of that gold away, the pile will get smaller. The whole scarcity concept says that there is only so much wealth (or whatever) to go around, and when one person gets more it means that another person now has less. This might hold up if there was a constant, never changing amount of money. Only, there isn’t. There’s more money in the world now than there’s ever been. And, for the first time in human history, we’re closer to money returning to its pure, energetic form than we’ve ever been.
A lot of people think it’s a bad thing that our currency is no longer tied to a gold standard. I do not. The gold standard was nothing but an illusion anyway, one that made it easier to believe that there was a finite amount of money. Today, the majority of money isn’t actually stored in big vaults with security guards and locks the size of a house. It’s stored on computer hard drives, in the form of zeroes and ones. It’s less physical than it’s ever been. And yet, it exists. We care very, very much how many zeroes and ones are in our bank account. Only, there’s no actual money in there. Again, a lot of people are made very uncomfortable by this. They’d prefer the “security” of having a physical representation of “their” money. You’ll notice I’m using a lot of sarcastic quotes today. That’s because the lack of security is an illusion, as is the idea that you could actually own money. Let me explain:
If money is just energy, and I think we’ve established that it is, then you can’t “own” it. You can either allow it to flow into and out of your life, or not. You can play with it, interact with it, give it, receive it, but you can’t own it. And you don’t need to. Think about it: when you go swimming in the ocean, do you need to own the water? Or can you simply enjoy floating in it? Do you try to bottle it and preserve it and ferret it away just in case the world ever runs out of ocean water? Or do you trust in the fact that the vast oceans will be there long after we’re gone? Can you trust that the waves will gently roll onto the shore any time you want to go down to the beach?
Money is just like that. There’s more of it available to us than we can imagine and we don’t have to worry that it’ll run out. We can trust that the vast oceans of money energy will always be there.
Can you allow love into your life?
Let me ask you something: Can you allow love to flow into your life? If someone wants to send you love, can you accept it? If a baby smiles at you, can you allow yourself to be uplifted by that? Don’t you automatically smile back? A baby smiling at strangers is in a state of love and trust. If you meet a really great group of people and you have a fantastic time at a party, can you appreciate that? Can you acknowledge that you allowed this amazing experience into your life, and that no one was in any way diminished by it? In fact, you were all enriched by the experience.
When something good happens to you, when you have a great time with others, when someone is nice to you, when you get a hug from a friend, when your favorite song comes on the radio, when you get the best table in the café, when a stranger’s dog who is normally shy goes totally nutso for you, can you accept that this is just love coming to you in various ways? The Universe, or God, or Source (or whatever you want to call it), is always, ALWAYS sending you love. The people it’s coming to you through are just the conduits. It’s like they’ve all put up their hands to volunteer to allow love to flow through them. And so, when you were ready to receive some love, the Universe found one of these volunteers in your vicinity and inspired you to glance at them at just the right moment to receive a smile. Perhaps you were given the gentle impulse to bump into someone, which started a fantastic conversation. Of course, in true co-creation, you also volunteered to be a conduit of some kind for the other person, but I’m going to try and keep this as simple as possible, it being a MEGA METAPHOR and all… Just to be clear, this volunteering thing isn’t generally conscious (except when you set an intention to help others, for example), but done on an energetic level. Seen from an even bigger perspective, we’re all volunteers to some extent. We agreed to help each other out just by coming to the physical. We wanted to play together and this is how we do it. We can only ever interact with each other on a voluntary basis. But I digress…
So, the Universe is sending you love, and there are all these willing conduits around you who are more than happy to bring you the love that you’re able to allow at any given time. Now, there are going to be days when you allow in more love and days on which the world seems to suck eggs. The difference between the two isn’t based on how generous the world is being that day. The generosity of the Universe is endless. Whether you experience a lot of love or not on any given day is only determined by your vibration, which is a direct result of your focus. In other words, the more of a match you are to the vibration of love and the less you contradict the reception of love, the more of it you’ll be aware of. Now, you may be wondering what the hell any of this has to do with money. Hang in there, I promise you, you’ll like this.
The round room visualization
Imagine that you’re sitting in the middle or large, round room. The walls of this round room are lined with doors – lots and lots of doors. Some are open and some are closed. All of these doors are pathways through which love energy can flow to you. Whenever you restrict the flow of love energy in any way, you close most, if not all, the doors. You can do this in two ways:
- You’ve deemed one or more of these pathways to be unacceptable
- You decide that the energy HAS TO flow to you through a particular door
Let’s say that a stranger gives you big friendly smile on the street. But, you notice that he’s a bit dirty, and he’s missing some teeth. Can you allow his smile to make you feel good, or do you dismiss it as being meaningless? Would a smile from a handsome man in a business suit have been worth more? If you get a compliment from a family member, do you value it less than if it comes from a stranger? Do you want to manifest a boyfriend but automatically dismiss certain types of men without even meeting them (everyone does this, so don’t beat up on yourself. I’m just here to help you become aware of these beliefs). Whenever you decide that you don’t like a certain pathway, you close that door, and by doing so, inadvertently close a whole bunch of doors.
Judgment of any kind about HOW energy flows to you will restrict it. [Tweet this]
The same thing happens when you decide that the energy you want must flow to you through a specific doorway. When you decide that a very specific man has to be “the one”, you’re dismissing all other possibilities. By restricting the energy flow to just one doorway, you close all the other doorways. If you then have some resistance to that doorway, or that conduit isn’t a match to what you want (if the guy you think is “the one” isn’t), then what you want CANNOT come to you.
If, however, you can sit in the middle of that round room and accept that it doesn’t matter through which doorway the love energy flows to you, that the important thing is that you receive it and that it feels really good, then you open all the doors and love can flow to you freely. In the real world, this would mean that you appreciate any sign of love flowing to you, no matter whom or where it came from. A compliment from one person wouldn’t be worth less than that from another. A hug from a stranger would uplift you just as much as one from your lover. That baby’s smile could make your day. You would feel utterly deserving, seeing all the love flowing to you from the Universe and through so many conduits. You’d be flooded with love. This scenario, by the way, is totally available to you anytime you wish to allow it.
Money Energy is just Love Energy
Now, consider that you’re sitting in that round room and instead of love energy, you’re attracting money energy. Again, you don’t want to restrict energy by judging HOW it comes to you. Can you allow money energy to flow to you in whatever way is most easily allowed by you? The Universe is always trying to send you tons of money. And there are loads of volunteers all around you who are willing to allow the money to flow through them. You are utterly deserving of all the love/money energy you’ve ever wanted and more. All you have to do is allow it to flow to you.
If you find a dollar on the street, see it as money/love energy flowing to you from the Universe. It had to inspire someone who was willing to drop that dollar to do so in a place where you could find it. It then had to inspire you to look down at that precise moment so you’d see it. Think of the orchestration that had to go into you finding that dollar and yet, it was all willingly done for you! You are constantly being supported and looked after and cared for. The Universe is constantly rearranging itself to bring you whatever you want. The only reason that anything is ever NOT the way you want it to be is because you’ve gone and slammed a bunch of doors shut in the well-meaning, gift-laden Universe’s face. Feeling just a little douchey, now are we?
Examples of how you’re closing money doors
Any limiting beliefs you have about money will close those doors. When searching for those beliefs, look for any judgment you have about different ways in which money could come to you. You’ll either have decided that some ways are simply unacceptable or you’ve determined that one specific conduit is the only one you’ll accept. Here are some examples:
- You’re intent on winning the lottery. To you, there’s money coming from a lottery win, which feels easy and joyful, and everything else, which feels like hard work and suffering. So, you’ve decided that your millions MUST come to you through a lottery win.
- You DO NOT want a bunch of money coming to you from your job. You hate your job and therefore getting a raise would mean that you’re obviously working even harder and are probably going to be stuck there forever.
- You want more money but cringe at the idea that it might come from your parents. It’s not ok for money to flow to you from them.
- If someone owes you money, the amount that flowed from you MUST come back to you through that person. It’s not about the money, it’s about the principle. If money flows to you through another source, it doesn’t count.
- The only way to make money is to get more clients/customers/sales. If you can’t get more clients, you can’t make more money (can you hear the doors slamming?)
- Money energy has to come in the form of actual money. If you get something you wanted in another way, as a gift or exchange for example, it doesn’t count the same.
- If you get money but it’s not “enough”, it’s basically worth nothing.
When you begin to think in terms of closing doors by judging the ways in which money or love can come to you, you may well find that you’ve been resisting what you want in many, many ways. Open those doors up, make it ok for the energy to come to you in whatever way it wants to, and you’ll open all the doors. The energy will flow freely and you’ll get what you want easily.
Don’t judge the HOW. Don’t try to control the HOW. Don’t shut those doors. Just sit in the middle of that round room and let it stream to you through ALL the doorways. Don’t try to hold on to it. Let it flow through you. Interact with it, play with it, receive it and give it. Appreciate it in any amount and however it’s come into your experience. Love it. Because money energy and love energy are the same thing. Money is love. Money is love. Say it with me now: Money is love!
Now, it’s your turn. I’ve given you several examples of how you might be shutting those doors. Can you think of anymore? Share your examples in the comments! (By the way, even though I’m no longer responding as much to comments, please rest assured that I’m reading each and every one and I love you guys for being so willing to share. Smooshy puppy hugs to all of you!)