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Visualizing When You’re Not A Visual Person
Derek asks, “I don’t have a visual imagination when I close my eyes, but your blog says to imagine what you want visually. I can only think with voice and logic; have you heard about this problem before?”
Yes, this is something that a lot of people grapple with and it’s not an issue at all. In the article How To Visualize – The Secret to What Visualization Really Is, I explain that Visualization is simply a tool to help us line up with the energy of what we want. The visualization itself isn’t that important, and it’s certainly not the only tool at our disposal. If “seeing” images isn’t comfortable or easy for you, that’s ok.
The most important thing is that you find a way to evoke the feeling of the CORE of what you want. So, let’s say that you want a new car. Why? Because you want to look cool. Why? Because you don’t feel that you are. Why not? Because you have a belief that you’re not good enough. So, you don’t really want a new car. What you really want is to feel good enough and you think that having a new car will help you do that. In this case, you’d focus on the core of feeling worthy.
Or, let’s say that you want that new car just because you think it would be fun to have a car. That’s ok too. In that case, you could focus on the car and WHY you want it.
In neither case would you have to “picture” the car. You could simply write out a list of what you want and why you want it. You’d want to choose words that evoke really positive and enthusiastic feelings from you.
The second example is a bit easier for me to use here. Notice that I’m writing this list in the present tense, as though you already have what you want. This is a good technique to use, but what’s most important is that whatever you write evokes the best possible feelings from you.
So, an example list would be:
- I love how great the new leather seats smell.
- I love how reliable the car is.
- I love the sound of the engine. It’s so quiet. It just purrs.
- I love the color (add adjectives to describe your favorite color).
- When I see my car in the morning, my heart skips a beat.
- It’s so fun to drive!
Or you can imagine that you’re telling a friend about your new car – this perfect car that you love. What would you say? Tell him how much you love it and WHY. What do you love about it? You don’t have to “see” yourself talking to your friend, but you can have this pretend conversation on your own. Work yourself into a super enthusiastic state about your new car, and you’ll have found the vibration of Who You Really Are. Do this consistently and the manifestations have to come rolling in.
You could also use music to help you attain this feeling (an old rock song that you’d love to drive down the road to).
Or look at cars that you like and appreciate them.
These are all different tools that do the same thing as visualization. Choose whichever one works best for you – whichever one most easily evokes a FEELING response from you – and go with that. As long as you get into the feeling, you can’t get it wrong.
Why Do Manifestations Always Come In Unexpected Ways?
Max asks, “Every time I focus on something and want to experience that thought inside the physical, it won’t manifest, even If I keep a really clear image. A while ago I focused on a rat for about a minute. So I searched the street all day long to find one. It wasn’t like I deliberately went in search of rats, I just kept the picture of a rat in my mind throughout the day; but I didn’t see one. I checked the back alley of a particular restaurant which is always full of rats but even there I found nothing. It was just absurd what I was doing but I wanted to focus on something unique rather than a glass of water. So I came home, forgot all about the rat stuff, started to make something to eat, and went to take out the garbage. Then, in that moment, more than 50 rats were staring at me. I was speechless. I’ve never seen a rat in my neighborhood in the 3 years that I’ve lived there. When I got closer they ran away. My point is, it’s always like that – you always get kind of surprised when you focus on something and expect it to come, rather than saying, “Ok, I knew it was going to happen like that.”
Here’s what happened with the rats: You focused on the rat in order to manifest it. Fair enough. But then, you kept focusing on it, trying to MAKE it appear. In order for something to manifest, you have to switch from the ASKING (asking it to appear) to RECEIVING (allowing it appear).
When you let go of the need to see the rat and just went about your day, the rats appeared. You made the switch to allowing.
Here’s another way to look at it: You get to decide the WHAT, but you don’t get to decide the HOW. This is because you don’t have nearly as big of a perspective and toolset as the Universe does. Could you have known which rats in your city were a vibrational match to your desire? Did you know which rats were willing to cooperate and show up just to prove to you that you can manifest? Could you have given them all the impulse to show up at precisely the right place and time where you would be sure to see them? I’m guessing no.
But the Universe could and actually did all of those things.
Let’s say that you want to have a house built. You come up with a picture of the perfect house and have an architect design it. It’s gorgeous. You then go to the building site and start to tell the construction workers where to buy the wood and the bricks. You tell them where to lay the electrical wires. Only, you know little or nothing about construction, so they’re not inclined to listen to you. And even if they did, the end result would be horrible. It’s not your job to build the house. And it’s not your job to find the rats. It’s your job to figure out what you want and then trust that it will come. When you keep looking for the rats it’s like you keep interfering with construction workers, asking them if they’re done yet. They’re not going to get your house built that way. But if you leave them alone, they’ll get right on it.
Once you’ve defined what you want, back off and let the Universe do its job. And stop trying to control the whole process. 🙂
Why do certain people catch my eye?
Ismael asks, “When I’m in public, certain people (male or female) attract me for some reason. Not in the “romantic” way, but I find myself glancing at them deliberately (more than twice). They won’t be specifically “attractive”, but my head will want to nod back to them. I won’t really have thoughts that come to mind about them. I’ll just keep looking (like how babies do). Has this ever happened to you and is there a reason behind this?”
Whenever you notice anything or become aware of anything, it’s always because on some level, it’s a vibrational match to you. The thoughts or feelings you’re having about these people may be very subtle, but there are some there.
The baby analogy is a good one. They are fascinated by their environment and they soak it all in. You are noticing different people and feel just a little bit drawn to them, enough so that you want to keep looking at them.
If I were you, I’d guide my thoughts and feelings when this happened. Why not deliberately look for what you like about them? What can you notice about them that you can appreciate? They are in your reality for a reason. Try to figure out why. They are mirroring something back to you. This could be something as subtle as giving you an opportunity to practice deliberately shaping your thoughts. As you become more and more aware of your world in terms of vibration, you may well find yourself weirdly fascinated by the most arbitrary things. Like a sunset, or leaves on a tree, or flowers, or someone’s laugh, or how people interact with each other, body language, a smile, a lady bug, etc. Don’t shy away from these experiences, embrace them and pull them into the most positive place you can. Have fun with this!
Now it’s your turn: Did any of these questions resonate with you? Share your own experience for the benefit of everyone.
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