Dear lovely readers,
I am currently on a weeklong Spa vacation in Austria. While I’m gone, I thought I’d try something a little different. First, I thought I’d just shut the blog down for a week (there are a lot of posts in the Archives to keep you going…). I was going to post another Quick LOA Questions post today and then just sort of slither into the night like an overcooked noodle, which is all you can really do after a few spa treatments. But then I had a better idea. Why not publish one little question each day that I’m gone? Those of you who love the short posts get a whole week of them (you’re welcome!), and no one has to go entirely without their Happy Shiny Puppy Fix. Yes, I know. I’m a freaking saint.
I will be popping in periodically to answer comments, but mostly, I shall be like the sloth. Only a hell of a lot more groomed. I shall be like a groomed sloth.
So, without further ado, here is your little question of the day:
“How can I deal with people of a lower vibration? I find that when I run into them, I get a physiological response which triggers me escaping the scene, i.e., fleeing, because they make feel nervous, as they criticize and judge others while probing me to see where I am at in my life so they can do the same. This irks me a lot because I would like to maintain my own happy, high vibe which I would like to spread, yet some people are so miserable with themselves and their own situations and jealous of others that it seems impossible for me to hang out with them, let alone briefly converse with them.
Avoiding them is best for me and makes me happiest, but how about other situations where I can’t get away? Also, on Facebook, I feel like de-friending them, for they speak of things, like the past, from which I myself have moved on and grew tremendously and they think I continue to be that girl. I realize this is my problem, as most people can deal with them and do not see a problem, but I get this response that I can’t ignore. I do not wish to lower my vibration and I get angry with them at times, as they contact me only when they need something. Again, this is not a big deal with others, but it is for me. How do the masters do it- being able to speak with anyone- of a high or low vibration? “
It’s interesting. I just explored this very topic on a coaching call earlier today. It should come out in the Membership Site on July 22nd.
I’ll give you the answer in a nutshell:
First of all, if you feel like getting away from them or de-friending them, do so. If you are no longer a vibrational match to these people, don’t try to hold on to them. Other, more awesome people will come in to take their place. But you must let go of that which no longer serves you.
Second, practice deliberately finding alignment. Practice deliberately thinking thoughts that feel good. Start when you’re alone and it’s easy and work your way up from there. Gradually, you can practice exposing yourself to other people and then practice finding a good feeling place – your center. The more you do this, the better you’ll get at it.
Third, when you do get triggered by something (you have negative emotion), get away and when you feel better, try to figure out what got triggered. Why did what they said bother you so much? What words really caused you to react? Figure out why. You have a belief in the somewhere that’s come up to be released and this manifestation was that belief trying to get your attention.
The masters didn’t start off being masters. They cleaned up their vibration bit by bit, incident by incident and trained themselves to hold their vibration steady in more and more volatile environments until it become impossible for outside circumstances to distract them from their alignment.