[Today we have another incredible guest post by Mary Carol Moran. She poses a difficult question, one that all of us deal with. How do we move ever closer to the perspective of Who We Really Are while still living in the real world?]
A man who has been married for 46 years tells his dying wife that he will honor their will, leaving their estate to their adult children. She trusts him, and doesn’t leave any of the estate directly to their children in her own will. A year later he meets a woman; one year more and they’re married. When he dies two years later, his children learn that he has left the bulk of his estate to his new wife.
So, here’s a man living in the moment, doing what feels right in the moment. He’s no longer the person he was when he made the commitment to his first wife. Now it feels better to leave the estate to his new wife, so he does.
And here’s a woman, the second wife, obviously a strong manifester, who has manifested receiving something of material value which she desired.
Did something go wrong?
Live in the moment. Manifest your desires. It sounds perfect, doesn’t it? Yet most people reading this scenario feel that there’s something wrong.
To me, the sticking point in this story isn’t the commitment to the adult children. We as humans can’t see a big enough picture to know whether they may actually benefit more from not inheriting. It will change their future, maybe for the better. Who knows? Each of them somehow manifested this situation for themselves.
The sticking point for me is the promise to the first wife. How do we live together if each of us lives purely in the moment? I guess we could say that the first wife could have divided the estate in her own will and left her half directly to her children as she wished. It would have involved selling houses, liquidating assets, basically making her surviving husband’s life a lot more difficult. And so she chose not to do that. She trusted him to fulfill his promise to her.
If each of us lives in the moment, does trust cease to exist? Is trust an outdated concept that doesn’t fit with being Who You Really Are? Is there a difference between trust and expectation?
Soul vs. Body
In my journey, I keep bumping into the juxtaposition of Soul and Physical Existence. In the expanded realm of Soul, it makes perfect sense to me that trust is irrelevant. There’s no interdependence. There’s no I or you or we, and everything’s perfect, no matter what.
I think part of the point of our physical existence, this wonderful experiment of living, is that we ARE interdependent. Our bodies perceive an I and a you, even while our souls know we’re all one. And we, Body and Soul, are trying to find a way to live with that. Some of our values as Body are irrelevant to Soul. Loyalty, honesty, trust – these are Human Body values that allow us to live interdependently. And the closer we get to Who We Really Are, to our Souls, the more we bump up against the conundrum that the Soul doesn’t register any of these, or in fact any ‘values’ at all. Soul just is.
So where does that leave us? If we each do what feels best in the moment, can we live together? I had a simple example this morning. I was invited last night to breakfast with a group of friends. I said no, because I had a prior commitment. This morning I went to the prior commitment and the person didn’t show. Simple situation, repeated all over the world every day.
My Soul is happy (she’s always happy!). The other person showing up is irrelevant to her happiness. Going to breakfast with friends or going to the prior commitment – it’s all good! In fact, it’s all fantastic!
My Body on the other hand is a little miffed. I would have enjoyed getting together with my friends. I’m doing my best not to judge, though it brings up the question of how I respond the next time the current no-show asks me to commit to something. And I feel like a bit of a schmuck for showing up this morning when I really would rather have been somewhere else. Why couldn’t I have been the one to not show? That’s what Who I Really Am would have done, right? Except that would have felt awful, so Who I Really Am wouldn’t have done it.
Living in a Body is a lot more complicated than living as a Soul. Thank goodness my Soul appreciates the fun of the challenges, and helps my conscious mind appreciate it to.
So what is the take-away from all this?
Do I keep valuing loyalty, honesty, trust, and honoring commitments, even when in the moment they might go against what I want to do? For me, the answer is yes. And bumping into the wall, again, has helped clarify that having and living by these guidelines is a choice. Hard as it is, I’m renewing and redoubling my effort to avoid judging anyone based on these precepts, which are my choice and not intrinsic or Soul-given.
Body and Soul, having fun, Amen!
Hugs to all!
Mary Carol Moran lives in Mexico, where she spreads love and awareness and poetry. Her latest project is an animal shelter for puppies and kitties. Check it out and support the site by liking it here: Amigos de Perros y Gatos Colima