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It’s time for another Law of Attraction Video! This is the third video in a series on negative emotions. In honor of today being Valentine’s day, I thought that I’d dedicate today’s video to the subject of… wait for it… Lust. Rowr.
What exactly is Lust?
The Dictionary defines lust as:
- intense sexual desire or appetite.
- uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.
- a passionate or overmastering desire or craving: a lust for power.
Well dear dictionary, you forgot the positive definitions for lust, such as “a lust for life”. Because in its pure form, lust is simply an intense desire for something, and there’s really nothing wrong with that. Desire is at the heart of how we evolve, how we expand. We want something, we line up our energy with it and we get it. Rinse and repeat. Without desire, there would be no evolution. There would be no us. So, there’s nothing wrong with lust in its pure form. Just as last week’s video about the Sense of Entitlement explained that this emotion in its pure form isn’t actually a negative emotion, so it is with lust. It’s not negative unless and until it becomes associated or coupled with something else that creates negative emotion.
Why do we see lust in such a negative light?
The main reason is that lust has become so heavily coupled with sex. Now, lust isn’t actually about sex. You can lust after a car, a job or a house. Lust is simply an intense desire for something. But it’s become so deeply coupled with sex and in deeply puritanical societies (which most of us still live in), sex is a horrible, horrible thing. Just horrible. *sarcasm alert*
Even if you don’t believe that anymore (and I hope most of you reading this don’t still believe that), it’s still possible and quite probable that you have some remnants of old beliefs within you that sex is somehow shameful and bad. Therefore, it’s possible for you to lust after someone but believe that it’s bad. That’s going to cause a vibrational discord and THAT’S going to lead to negative emotion.
What else can cause negative emotion when you lust after something/someone?
Anything that negates the idea of you actually getting/achieving what you’re lusting after will cause negative emotion. Again, you could be lusting after a car or a house. If you have any belief within you, such as “I can’t have that”, “I’m not going to get that”, “I’m not worthy of that”, “I shouldn’t want this in the first place” (for example, if you’re lusting after a car and you believe deep down that wanting material possessions is bad), then that’s going to contradict what you want.
Or you may feel that you MUST have this thing in order to be happy (which is considered obsession), but you’re probably not going to get it. That belief is going to negate the energy of what you want.
If you have an intense desire for something and you also have a belief that states that you can’t have that desire, that belief will create vibrational discord and it’s this discord that causes the negative emotion – NOT the lust.
Stop hating on lust. There’s nothing wrong with it, especially not today. So go forth, my pretties, and lust all you want. Seriously. Just make sure it feels good, because as long as it feels good, you’re experiencing pure lust. If the desire feels bad, that means you have an underlying, contradictory belief and you’ve got some releasing to do.
What do you think about lust? Is it ok to lust or does that word still carry a negative connotation for you?
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