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If it’s one thing that I’ve learned in doing this work is that everyone can benefit from loving themselves more. It’s something you hear all the time – “You just have to love yourself”. But… what does that even mean? How can you learn to love yourself, when you currently don’t and perhaps don’t even know what that feels like?
That’s what today’s video is about. I’m going to share 2 techniques with you that have served me well, both personally and with my coaching clients.
Technique Number 1:
This has to do with how you talk to yourself. Generally, unless they’ve done some conscious work on the subject, most people can be really nasty bastards to themselves. What’s your first response when you make a mistake? If you’re like most people, it’s something like “Man! I’m such an idiot”. You might even say that kind of thing out loud. *Insert Facepalm here*
You can change both the tone and words you use to talk to yourself by doing the following:
- Imagine a small, defenseless child that you adore.
- Pretend that this child has done what you just did – made the mistake, screwed something up, whatever.
- What would your response to this child be? Probably not “You’re such an idiot”, unless you’re a total douchebag, in which case, chances are, you’re not watching my videos.
- Now, use those same words to talk to yourself. Run everything you say to yourself through that filter.
You’ll be amazed at how quickly you’ll begin to completely change the way you speak to yourself.
Technique Number 2:
- Think of someone that you love dearly. Don’t choose someone that brings up negative feelings along with love, use a person who you simply adore. Grandparents and babies work well for this exercise.
- Sit with that emotion for a little bit. Really get into the feeling of love. What does it feel like?
- From that high vibrational place, just for a moment, look at yourself through those eyes. Don’t be discouraged if you can’t quite reach that feeling, or if you can’t hold on to it for very long. You are literally retraining your brain and it will get easier with practice.
If you do these exercises daily, even just for a few minutes, the way you speak and look at yourself will change drastically. You’ll feel kinder, both towards yourself and other people. You’ll feel less stressed (most stress is actually self induced) and calmer.
Give these techniques a try and tell me what you think. Do you feel better? What techniques have you found that have raised your self esteem? Let me know in the comments!