I find children fascinating. Especially the children that are being born in this time, with this incredibly high vibration. They are more connected, more attuned to who they are, and more aware of their power than any generation before them. And, for the most part, they are making it very hard for the adults in their lives to train them out of this awareness. They require very different parenting, and from I’m seeing, they’re getting it. Because this generation’s parents are also more connected and aware of who they are than any generation’s parents before them.
Let me just throw this out there right at the start: The Boogie Man is real. Not in the sense that there’s an actual monster hiding in your closet or under your bed. Those are burglars and/or perverts. Call 911. I mean, when your child “sees” a boogie man, monster, dragon, evil troll, witch, or whatever, they are actually translating a form of non-physical energy.
We used to tell children to stop being ridiculous; that there’s nothing there. But I’ve noticed a wonderful trend, at least among the parents I know, of adults actually listening to their children when they speak of the unseen, instead of dismissing it, or worse, medicating it out of them. Children, especially the really young ones, still have the ability to see non-physical energy. We all do, actually, except most of us have been trained right out of it. When a child “sees” something that the adults can’t perceive, and when those adults then tell that child that there truly is nothing there (not, “I can’t see it” but “You’re wrong”), the child begins to believe that there really is nothing there and they shut down those channels of translation. They begin to translate only those socially accepted frequencies, which we’ve all agreed upon. If we can all see the tree, it exists. If you can see a fairy and I can’t, you must be insane. It couldn’t possibly be that my ability to translate the energy that you’re perceiving as a fairy is lying dormant, could it? Damn right it could.
If your child sees a dragon, is there really a dragon?
I was talking to a grandmother about her adorable grandson the other day. We’ll call him Dougie. Dougie sees dragons – evil, scary ones, and happy, nice ones. There’s nothing wrong with Dougie. He’s just still young enough (he’s six) that it’s easy for him to perceive non-physical energy. The cool thing is that Dougie is fully aware of the difference between physical and non-physical energy and will not be dissuaded simply because adults can’t see what he does.
When Dougie and his grandmother were exploring a cave, and he pointed out a dragon to her, she responded “I can’t see it.” His response was, “Of course you can’t.” He accepts that adults just don’t have the power to see what he does. This doesn’t make it any less real for him, or any less scary when an evil dragon shows up.
Of course, there’s not really a dragon there. And Dougie isn’t about to get swallowed up or burned alive by an invisible monster. But that doesn’t mean that what he’s seeing isn’t there. He’s perceiving energy. Because we all translate energy through our own filters, and because Dougie loves dragons and has an almost encyclopedic knowledge of them, he sees dragons. If a child read a lot of books about fairies and trolls, they might well see fairies and trolls. We tend to go with what we know.
What does the dragon feel like?
I’ve written pretty extensively about our emotional guidance system. Our feelings are our vibrational feedback system – they let us know if the frequency we’re focusing upon is serving us or not. When we think positive thoughts, that are in tune with Who We Really Are, we feel great. When we think horrible, ugly thoughts about hate or unworthiness, thoughts that our inner being does not agree with, we feel negative emotions.
So, when a child perceives non-physical energy, there will be an emotion attached to it, and this emotion will affect how that child “sees” this energy (or hears it, etc.) For example, if the energy has a low vibration, it may evoke fear, which will turn the dragon black and smoky and evil looking. If the energy has a high vibration, it will feel good, and the dragon will appear glowy, happy and friendly.
But these dragons aren’t just floating about, waiting for a kid to latch onto. They are a manifestation. Whatever comes into our reality has been drawn to us by our vibration. So, if the child, who is still learning how to deal with the onslaught of different vibrations, focuses on a thought that causes fear, he will conjure more scary-feeling energy. And he may translate that scary feeling energy into a scary looking dragon. If he focuses on thoughts that feel safe and protected and happy, he will conjure up more energy that feels like that and translate it into a happy, shiny dragon. It really is no different from normal reality, only you, the adult, can’t see it.
The scary dragon isn’t causing the fear. The fear is causing the scary dragon. Just as your stupid boss isn’t causing you to hate your job. The way you choose to feel about your job is causing your boss to act especially stupid.
Defeating the scary dragon
Ok, so now that you understand what your child is actually perceiving, what can you do about it? We’ve already established that telling them there’s nothing there isn’t really helpful. Sure, your kid may stop seeing dragons or boogiemen or whatever, but they won’t stop feeling the fear that caused those visions. And being able to “see” the non-physical energy instead of just feel it, can be a huge help in learning how to control what we focus on. If you can wrap your head around the fact that your child is actually perceiving energy, you can help them learn now to consciously guide their thoughts and take control over how they feel. You can help them understand that they have the power to call upon as well as vanquish their boogie man. But how?
Let’s go back to Dougie. He and his grandmother were riding in the car a few weeks ago, when he spotted a “bad dragon”, which scared him. It was apparently flying alongside the car, and he felt very threatened. The grandmother asked me what she should’ve done in that instance, and here’s my advice:
When your child sees a monster, or in this case, a bad dragon:
- Don’t dismiss it. This will only make your child stop telling you why they’re scared. Knowing that they’re perceiving energy will help you to at least pretend that the dragon is real.
- Don’t pretend to actually see it if you don’t. Kids know when you’re lying to them and they don’t like to be patronized anymore than you do.
- Ask your child to look for the good dragon (or fairy, or good witch or other powerful good being. This will depend on your child’s filters, what they’ve been exposed to and what they’ve come to know about.)
- They will not be able to see the good dragon right away. Tell them to keep searching for it. Assure them that it’s there. They just have to find it. The good dragon is always there, protecting us and keeping us safe. All we have to do is look for it.
- Chances are, your child will see the good dragon after a few minutes and feel much, much better. The bad dragon will have diminished or disappeared.
What just happened?
When an adult is feeling afraid, I coach them to focus on better feeling thoughts. I get them to raise their vibration by switching their focus onto a higher frequency. This is exactly what we just did with Dougie. The bad dragon represents a lower frequency of fear. Because he visually translates this energy, it’s an enormous crutch in helping him to understand how to switch his focus. Try telling a 6-year old to focus on better feeling thoughts. You’re not going to get very far. But ask him to look for a white dragon, and he can latch on to that. Children respond best to images and symbols, so if we can use the images they’ve created, the will quickly understand what we’re asking them to do and the result will be instantaneous.
As it turns out, Dougie’s grandmother is much more intuitive than she often gives herself credit for. When Dougies’s bad dragon turned up, she asked him where the good dragon was. She had done the exact thing I would’ve advised, even without knowing the principles behind it. (Don’t you just love that? Let that be a lesson to you parents: You’re probably doing a lot more right than you think you are.) And after just a few minutes, Dougie found the happy, white dragon and felt better.
Teach your child to take control
I’m sure it won’t take Dougie long to figure out that this trick of looking for the good dragon will instantly banish the bad dragon whenever it appears. The idea here is not to banish the bad dragons forever, but to teach children (and the adults who love them) that they have control over how they feel. They can keep staring at the bad dragon and continue to feel more and more fear, or they can take their focus off of him and look for the good dragon. And when they do, they’ll feel better.
If your child is afraid of the boogie man in their closet, help them find a representation of a better feeling energy. Ask your child what a protector might look like. Help them focus on this representation. Ask them to describe it, what it looks like, how it protects people, how it keeps them safe, etc. As you do this, your child will already feel better – you are getting them to focus on this better feeling frequency.
Now, ask your child to find this protector. If they can “see” energy, ask them if they can see it. If they can sense it, ask them to feel for it. However they translate energy, ask them to find the protector until they know that he/she’s there. Assure them that this protector is always there. The energy is always there, but we can choose to tap into it and become aware of it at any time, or not. And then, if they’re ever scared, all they have to do is look for this protector and as they tune themselves to this higher vibration, as they “find” the representation of that energy, they will feel better.
The scariest thing about the boogie man is that we think that we are powerless against him. He can jump out of the bushes, out of our closet, out of the dark at any time and hurt us. The most powerful lesson you can teach your child is that they have control. The Boogie Man has no power, unless we give it to him. How do we do that? We keep looking at him and we keep being afraid. But if we look away, if we look at things that make us feel better, the Boogie Man will go away. He has to. It’s the law, y’all.