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The Vibrational Ladder (technique for releasing negative beliefs)
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Transcript of the Video:
In Self-Development circles, there’s a lot of discussion about action – when to take action, how to take action, and how to make things happen with action. And the main focus of all these discussions tends to be about overcoming laziness. But what is laziness, exactly?
Laziness and Procrastination are just indicators of resistance. What does that mean? When you want something, when you have a goal, and you have some thoughts and beliefs that are running alongside that desire which basically say that you don’t want this thing for some reason – that’s resistance. And it’s going to sabotage you. As you try to take action toward what you want, resistance is going to manifest as all kinds of obstacles, like laziness and procrastination.
Let me give you an example: Let’s say that you want to lose weight and you have a belief that says that you have to exercise in order to reach that goal. But for some reason, you cannot get yourself to the gym. You keep intending to go, but stuff comes up, or you just can’t be bothered. You may have a belief that exercise is no fun; perhaps you’ve had some negative or humiliating experiences in the past (like in P.E., as a child). That’s resistance. Or, you may actually be resistant to the goal of being thinner. You want to be thin, but you may also have a fear that you’ll be more vulnerable if you’re thinner. You might have to put up with more unwanted sexual attention, for example. So the thought of losing weight, while sounding wonderful, also triggers a fear. That’s resistance, and resistance creates obstacles in your reality. So every time you start to go for what you want, that resistance is going to manifest as obstacles. Laziness and procrastination are nothing but obstacles, created by resistance.
Willpower vs. the Law of Attraction
So, what can you do, if you find that you have resistance? You have two ways of getting what you want:
You can use the tried and true method of willpower. You can force yourself to take action. You can force yourself to get up off the couch and go to the gym and beat yourself into submission. And while this brute force action approach can certainly bring results, it’s really the hard way of going about it. It’s short lived; willpower only lasts so long before it fizzles out. If you don’t clean up your vibration, that resistance is going to keep getting in the way. It’s exhausting – you feel like you’re trying to bust through a brick wall head first. And, when you try to make things happen with pure willpower, you tend to be really mean to yourself. “Get up! Get your fat butt off this couch!” It’s certainly not the gentlest of methods.
There is a better way.
Line up your energy
The better way is to line up your energy with what you want and allow the Universe to bring it to you. How do you do that?
Focus on the essence of what you want
In our example, you’ve been focusing on trying to get yourself to go the gym and exercise. But exercising isn’t your end goal. It’s what you think you have to do to get to your end goal. Why do you want to exercise? Because you think it will help you to lose weight.
But weight loss isn’t your ultimate goal either. Why do you want to lose weight? Because you think it will make you happier. You want to feel more attractive, sexier, more confident. You want to have better self esteem.
The essence of what you want is a feeling, not a thing or a task that you have to perform. This is the WHAT. Leave the HOW up to the Universe. It has an infinite amount of ways to orchestrate the arrival of what you want. All you have to do, is get out of the way.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to sell you on giving up your desire to lose weight, as in “Just accept the fat and be happy with it forever.” If you have a desire to be thin, you can certainly create that. But when you focus on the end goal (happiness), not only are you taking the short cut to what you really want, instead of the long way around, but you’re also much less likely to trigger resistance. The Universe knows what you want. There are no tricks here. When you line up with the vibration of what you truly want, the circumstances that match that, including a thin body, are going to come into your reality much faster.
So, focus on the essence of what you want and leave everything else up to the Universe.
Pay attention to how you feel
Let’s go back to our example. So, you want to lose weight and you’ve figured out that what you really want is to feel confident, attractive and happy. As you begin to focus on those thoughts, you notice that there’s some negative feelings. Some anxiety, or sadness or even anger pop up. It doesn’t matter what the exact emotion is, it just doesn’t feel good. Those negative feelings are indicators of resistance.
You see, when you have resistance, it first begins to manifest as negative emotion. That’s your first indication. If you ignore the negative emotion, the resistance will begin to manifest in a bigger way – as laziness and procrastination. If you still don’t do anything about it, it will perhaps create a physical obstacle. You might sprain you ankle, and now you can’t go to the gym. So, if you pay attention to the negative emotion, you can nip the resistance in the bud before it manifests in a bigger and more uncomfortable way.
So pay attention to how you feel when you’re focusing on what you truly want. Then, isolate the thoughts that are causing those feelings and release them.
Releasing negative beliefs
There are literally hundreds of ways to release negative beliefs in books and on the internet. Some examples are Byron Katie’s The Work, or the Lefkoe Method. I posted one of my favorite methods, the Vibrational Ladder, here just the other day. It doesn’t really matter which method you use, as long as you shift your energy.
Leveraging Universal energy
When you take the time to line up your energy with what you want before trying to take brute force action and trying to make things happen with pure willpower, you allow the Universe to assist you in attracting your desires. You begin to leverage this enormous creative power.
A few things are going to happen:
1.) First, you’re going to feel A LOT better. You’re finding those thoughts that don’t feel good and you’re getting rid of them.
2.) You’re going to have some insights and ideas on how to move forward. They may be very different from what you thought you’d need to do, but you’ll know in your gut that these actions will actually lead to results.
3.) The Universe will begin to line up coincidences and opportunities for you, which will make the journey easy and enjoyable.
This is why lining up your energy before you take action is the cure for willpower. You’re no longer trying to force yourself to do something you don’t really want to do. Instead of denying yourself the foods you love, for example, you’re going to very naturally gravitate towards healthier foods. They will just look good to you, while the foods that are keeping you from losing weight will begin to lose their appeal. You’ll wake up in the morning, full of energy and ready to get going. You won’t be able to wait to charge ahead, like a kid on Christmas morning. You won’t need to motivate yourself to do what you think you should, because you’ll be taking action that you actually want to take. Wild horses wouldn’t be able to stop you.
When you line up your energy first, laziness will be a thing of the past.